Someone please tell me I am not alone

reesie4

My child does not sleep and never has. We have tried so many different techniques that we have completely given up, I am ready to burn all the books. I am just so exhausted. He just screamed for 40 minutes to go down for his afternoon nap. I resorted to crying myself, which he started giggling at because I guess he thought I was laughing.

We just went to the pedi yesterday, and he said he has some separation anxiety going on right now. He never settles when he wakes in the middle of the night until I BF him. It is like he tries to go to sleep but can't get into that deep sleep until I feed him. So he is generally up from 10:30-11:45 (we have resorted to holding him until he is in a deep sleep over the last few days, previously he was lying back down in his own when I said "It's sleepytime, go night night, that suddenly doesn't work),we put him back in his crib, then he is always up at 12:30/12:40 to eat. Then again at 4 or 5, not really settling until I feed him. If we are really lucky he stays asleep until 7, but usually he is up again at 6.  I read that there is a 9 month sleep regression, but it seems like there is always an excuse for him to not sleep well. 

We had a fairly decent stretch during the 7.5-8.5 m, but it has been so much worse lately. He used to go down for the night really easily, and on his own. Last night it took me 45 minutes. He has been weird about eating and fussy more lately also. Thanks for reading my vent. I just feel like everyone's baby sleeps but mine. I  thought I would be a great mom but I just feel like I really suck today. I just want my little boy to be happy.:(

Pacheco825

I am sure it will get better. Sorry I dont have any advice but I just wanted to say I love your siggy. It made me LOL

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We also had a lot of trouble around 9-10 months. Still not great, but better.

MegGary

DD is all over the map with her sleeping as well. The past 2 nights she has been in my bed because she has ants in her room. Yes ants, ewwwww. Anyway, she STTN both nights. However, it took us an hour to get her to sleep.

We also tried the Ferber method & she just doesn't get it. She cries & screams & gets herself so worked up she starts to cough & what not. I can't leave  her for 5 minutes. So we rock her to sleep. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.

I don't know what to tell you. Just that I'm right there with you.

smiling76

Oh God---it's going to get worse???????   I have no advice just that I hope it gets better soon for you.  I'm not to that point yet and not looking forward to it.  I guess we just have to know it's a stage and they WILL grow out of it.  Have you tried a sound machine?  Ever since I've used that--he seems to put himself back to sleep---otherwise we were feeding about 2x a night.

 

RoRed5

We didn't really have any problems with him sleeping until recently.  He won't let us put him down or rock him to sleep anymore, we just have to put him into the crib and walk away...he doesn't cry, he just eventually goes to sleep.

This would be great except he's been waking at least 2x per night where he never did before.  I really think it's due to teething, however.  He'll wake up screaming and just freak out for an hour or so.  The night before last I finally brought him into the living room and we watched the Noggin network for an hour - and he never watches TV.  I'm hoping against all hope this will all pass.

Echowysp

No advice, but I wanted to say I hope things get better soon. 

julieteve

The only way DD will sleep is either in the car, or in my bed (nursed to sleep).  Although we do get a good nights sleep, it is upsetting to think that she might never go to sleep on her own and she might never sleep in her crib.  So, I definitely feel your frustrations.

AmyDrinkie

Maybe sleep problems are common among boys named Ian. ?Mine falls asleep fine but won't stay that way! ?He wakes up at least 5x a night.

reesie4

Sigh- Thanks ladies, you have no idea how much it helps just knowing that my child isn't some sort of anti-sleep freak and I am not the worst mother on the planet. GL to us all.

reesie4

Pacheco825:

I am sure it will get better. Sorry I dont have any advice but I just wanted to say I love your siggy. It made me LOL

Yeah, he is a silly boy. I am surprised noone said something along the lines of "maybe he is not sleeping because he is not in a comfortable position:)"

reesie4

smiling76:

Oh God---it's going to get worse???????   I have no advice just that I hope it gets better soon for you.  I'm not to that point yet and not looking forward to it.  I guess we just have to know it's a stage and they WILL grow out of it.  Have you tried a sound machine?  Ever since I've used that--he seems to put himself back to sleep---otherwise we were feeding about 2x a night.

 

Yes, we have been using the homedics machine and playing ocean sounds since like 2 weeks old. In my desperation lately I have been think that maybe that it ruining his sleep:)

reesie4

AmyDrinkie:

Maybe sleep problems are common among boys named Ian.  Mine falls asleep fine but won't stay that way!  He wakes up at least 5x a night.

Well I wish I had know this before!!!  Actually, I have read that male first born breastfed babies are the worst sleepers. I think I would have hoped for a girls instead and not breastfed!

RachaelandCarl

I tried EVERYTHING and my DS didn't come close to sleeping through the night even once until just two weeks ago. He was awake at least 5+ times a night and we always ended up cosleeping. Around 9 months was the absolute worst too. But for some reason he just decided to start sleeping recently out of nowhere.

Hang in there! I didn't think there was a light at the end the tunnel AT ALL!!!

lanaooo

I normally wouldn't recommend it but I think for a last resort it is an option. I was in the same boat as you and DH and I both work full time. I was at the point where I couldn't function without any sleep. We were doing ferber and having good results but my DS kept getting ear infections and I didn't want to do ferber when he had them so we just let him sleep with us. Its like a miracle. He sleeps all night long when he sleeps with us. We are going back to ferber on Friday night, but I really feel like I was able to catch up on sleep and make myself feel sane by doing it. I am worried now that I will never break him of it, but it has been worth it because we have been able to sleep and so has he. He naps better now too because he isn't overly tired.

Melissa17

I will speak to the naps since Maya still sleeps with us at night- easier that way.

I would spend more time trying to get her to nap than she would actually nap.  Now, I just let her play or we have quiet time.  She sits on my lap, we read a book  and just chill.  Sometimes she falls asleep other times she rests and then is ready to play again. 

Good luck.

 

 

Jlovelysoul

You are definitely not alone! I'm going through the exact same thing. It really wears on a person.