OB yelled at me for charting...

Doozieanne

So I went to my OB to see if there might be some other issue as to why I am not getting pregnant. I told her I was charting and had them all printed out ready for her to look at and she practically yelled and me and told me to stop.  She made me feel really bad and I think at the end she knew because she gave me a hug. Anyway, she basically said there is nothing wrong with me and that she won't do anything until it has been a year. I told her I thought I might have cysts since I have painful periods and ovulation cramps (very very painful)...She told me to take advil. She didn't do anything. She actually told me to go back on birth control for a few months. Anyway, I was not happy after the appointment. I know we have only been trying for 6-7 months but it's still hard on me.  And two of my good friends announced this week that they are pregnant which is just salt in the wound...even though I am very happy for them. I have baby fever bad.

JosiPeaches

My OB didn't yell exactly but he was incredibly dismissive of my charts.  As it turns out he was kind of right because I was wasting my time considering I have PCOS, I don't O and I have super long cycles.  All it was doing was stressing me out.

If you are that unhappy with the appointment I would find another OB or at least get another opninion.  Al lot of doctors won't do much till you have been trying for a year unless you  are having an issue so that doesn't seem all that strange. 

It's so frustrating I know.  Believe me, we hae all been there.

GL

franciscaz

WOW!  That OB wouldn't be my OB anymore.  Anytime I've had concerns (or my sister) even non-pregnancy related, he was there always.  B/c of his quick action he caught my sisters uterine cancer at the bud (she might have lost all opportunity to one day have kids had he not listened to her concerns or worse she could have died), my cysts that were causing pain, and later my IF. 

Now if you do have PCOS or something like that your charts will show you are not O'ing that says something is up.  If you are charting and Oing just at odd times that might mean you have odd cycles but are fine... but charting can be a useful indicator!  Did she even talk about your 5 to 8 day LH surges? 

Look I dunno if you are having issues are not, you might be fine!!!  But if I were you I would find a doctor whom listens rather than lectures.  After all it is your body and not hers.  You do deserve answers.

waitingforbaby#2

That's strange to me why your OB would be against charting, especially since you haven't been trying a full year. Charting can tell you so much! I know how hard it is to wait so long when baby fever is running through your soul, especially when people around you are pg   Hang in there, and maybe find a nicer OB!

JillRock96

I'm sorry you had to deal with that -- I would be finding a new OB.  I completely understand how hard it is to put in that requisite year when you know in your heart that something is not right.

I think charting can be incredibly useful (but I also work with data for a living, so my view might be skewed, ha ha).  When I saw my RE for the first time, I told him that I wasn't ovulating.  He asked how I knew, and I handed over my charts.  He took one look and said "You're right -- you're not ovulating."  I'm sorry that you were made to feel like you were doing something wrong!