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DH scared about another pg

LilSurferGirlLilSurferGirl
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I'm just realizing how anxious DH is about my getting pg again.  He wants another baby, but he's scared about the delivery risks to me.  I had some complications with my c/s for the boys (lost a lot of blood and they almost did an emergency hysterectomy to save my life) and DH was really freaked out when they asked him to make that call.  Fortunately our perinatologist was called in and he managed to save me and my uterus - but DH can't shake that fear of something going wrong again. 

Every appt. I have with the RE he wants to know how my uterus looked - lol. He keeps asking if I checked with the OB first, does the RE know what happened, is it safe for me to have another baby, etc.  I'm not sure how to calm his fears. I'm thinking I'll ask him come to my SHG today so he can ask the Dr. directly and maybe that will help.  We're only transferring 1 embryo this time and a singleton pregnancy would not have the risks and demands on my body that the twins did.  I want him to excited about # 3 - not living in fear for 9 months. 

 

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Re: DH scared about another pg

  • CHI-06CHI-06 member
    I think you're probably right...it will probably be good for him to talk to the Dr directly.  That will hopefully make him feel better than just hearing things from you.  I do hope that that helps!  I totally understand why he would be scared though!
    Daughter born July 2008; Daughter born March 2010 Son born August 2011
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  • Mr.&MrsSMr.&MrsS
    Sounds like a good idea to me! I know my DH trusts what the doctor says a lot more than what I say because the RE knows what they are talking about. Maybe hearing it from him (or her) will make your DH feel better.
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  • franciscazfranciscaz member
    DH freaks out a lot about me.  Especially b/c of my RA.  I think this is my last pregnancy and I think he is relieved he won't have to worry about me... at least w/me!
    Mom to Harmon 1/17/08 and twins Rachel & Callum 8/28/09 Photobucket 29o0v13.jpg
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  • eyenerdeyenerd

    I am sure things are more more scarier to him now that he sees what a wonderful mother you are to your boys and he worries about them too.  I think when you get pg this time around with a singleton things should be alot less complicated.

    Have him ask a few ??? and put his mind at ease.  Let me know how things work out.

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