had my twins @ 35 wks

rach*champp*3-1

Michael Timothy and Anna Grace were born at 35 wks last thursday just shortly before 1am.  Both are doing great but still in the special care nursery.  I came home yesterday and have been a wreck ever since.  I have 2 other children here at home that I need to be here for but I feel like I have abandoned my twins.  I know they are exactly where they need to be and getting taken care of.........  my head knows that but my heart hurts knowing that I am not with them.  My mom was suppposed to come over today and take me (I can't drive b/c of the c-section) but she is sick and not coming. My dh is going to go there on his lunch and feed them, but I won't be able to go there today to see them. By the time he would get home from work it would be dinner time and he doesn't want to take the other 2 there that late...... older one has homework and has to be in bed early for school.  So that means I won't see my babies today and they won't know that I am there feeding and holding them.  I didn't expect this to be this hard.

bonk2448

Congrats on the babies!!  But I feel so bad for you, I am sorry you won't be able to see them today, that is torture!  Can't a friend come help?

heathb21

Congratulations!  I'm happy to hear that both are doing well!  Hopefully they will come home soon, so you don't have to go through the stress of not being with them!  I'm sure it has to be so hard not to be there for your babies, but they are being well taken care of and your other kids need you too.

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Congrats!

and (((HUGS)))) I'm sure it's hard to balance the kids at home and the twins in the hospital - it's a fear i have, too. 

they will be home soon enough- do what you have to do - and they'll be taken care of well and get stronger and be home before you know it!!!

 

MarcieCasavant

Congragulations! That is very exciting. I am glad to hear they're doing well. I'm sorry you are missing them today. It must be really hard. They are getting good love and care I bet. Take Care, Marcie

VCMCG

Congrats on your new babies-how exciting!  Take it one day at a time-the babies will know that you are there for them-even if you can't get there everyday.  Hugs to you and your babies!

PiggyBride

Congrats! and what healthy weights too, they will be home before you know it so try to relax and get ready for them arriving home. ?I hardly slept the 3 nights that I was home without my babies, then when they where home I was like gosh why didn't I sleep a solid 10 hours while I had the chance! ?don't be so hard on yourself and try to focus your energy on the fact that you have two little blessings that where born healthy, they will be home soon with the rest of the family.

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april062604

congrats on becoming a mommy for a 3rd and 4th time! leaving the hospital was by far the worst day for me. ?i felt as if i was leaving my heart behind. ?they should be home soon, and don't feel like you're abandoning them...listen to your head on this one. ?they need the care that they're getting. ?do some "mommy" things for them today...wash their clothes, write in their baby books, set up more in their nursery. ?it'll help. ?before you know it, they'll be home with you.

HisLobster

Congratulations! I'm so sorry you can't get to them today.

soxfan812

Congrats on your twins!  It must be so hard to balance everything- I was trying to do the same when I had one twin and a toddler at home, and one twin in the hospital-- you feel pulled in every direction and you always feel like you are being a 'bad mom' to someone.  But, your kids will always know that you love them and that you are doing everything you can for them.  To a mom, it never feels like enough, but your babies will love you for every second they get to be with you.  I beat myself up about it, too, and it is hard not to, but I tried to focus on the end result of having all of my kids healthy and at home-- whatever we had to do to get to that point would be worth it in the end- and it is!  Good luck- try not to be too hard on yourself- you are only one person and you are doing everything you can for all of your kids.  It won't be like this forever- you can do it!

krisc

Congratulations and big hugs to you.  I know how it feels to have the babies be in the hospital, I can only imagine how it feels to not be able to get there to be with them.  I hope they get to come home soon and your whole family can enjoy being together. 

LilSurferGirl

Congratulations on your twins!!  I'm so glad Michael and Anna are doing well, but I know it must be so hard to be away from them.  As the pp have said, they are where they need to be and getting the care they need to get strong and come home with you.  They will always know that you are their Mommy and that you love them and want what's best for them. Having two at home and two in the hospital is going to be a tough juggling act for a while and you can't be everywhere at once.  Stay strong - you will get through this and have all your little ones home with you soon!!!

caseybog

Congratulations!  I'm sorry they are in the NICU - I do hope thier stay is very short and uneventful. Hugs!

MetalMonkey

Congrats!!  I'm sorry you can't be there with them.  I'm sure that is such a hard thing.  Did the doctors say how long they will need to stay in the hospital?  Sending thoughts your way that Michael and Anna come home soon.