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Adoption
Matched - Take Two
I contemplated what to share since the February situation went so poorly and was quite painful, but you ladies have given me so much support and knowledge that I wanted to let you know...?
I'm working working off of very little sleep today due to a late night call that appears will change our life forever. On Saturday we submitted for the first case since our failed adoption. This past month and a half was long and hard and we were really scared to submit again. First go around we were not picked for 4 or 5 cases we were shown for and the let down was hard enough to make us question when we would be ready to start again.?
Before I knew anything about this case, I knew it was our son. Kind of creepy but I just had this feeling. Turned out this case was perfect for us and we decided to go for it. The stars seemed to be aligned and everything felt right from the agency, to the birthparents to the timing of the birth and apparently the birthparents felt the same way.
I've always wondered how it would feel to hear someone on the phone tell us that "they adored us and have chosen us to parent their child". (Last time it was a born baby so there was no selection process.) It's pretty incredible and overwhelming.
We are super excited, but still cautious because of last time. We feel that we chose a case that has the least amount of risk physically possible at this point and we trust the parties involved. There is always that chance but we have decided to go in hearts wide open.
If all goes well, our little boy will be born two weeks from today and we will be there to experience every moment of it. ?
I have felt that a lot of my posts have been about the negative side of adoption and the letdown. I wanted to share that if what my gut is telling me is true, then this second round would completely negate all the rest of it and has been a beautiful experience so far. We shall see once we have him in our arms! ?But I do believe everything happens for reason and I can see how every hurtful thing we experienced at the beginning of the year played a part in us finding this baby as well as preparing us to be ready when we do find him.?
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Re: Matched - Take Two
Oh I am so happy for you!!!! I hope that this is the one. I pray that your son will come to you with out any problems. Keeping my finger crossed. Actually being able to see your child being born must be incredible. Good luck.
Lana
I'm so incredibly happy for you. I know you don't want to get your hopes up, but I feel that this is it for you. Boys are so much fun! Have fun preparing and try not to worry. We love to hear all the details. Keep us posted!
Amy - you've been such a great help to me through all of this in many ways. Over the weekend when everything started happening perfectly I felt like God had picked me up and was saying that enough was enough and he was carrying us through this. I'm not overly religious, but it was such a powerful experience this weekend. DH and I said that we really wanted to feel like we were being given signs, and they were coming from all over!?
Now I have to start reading up and figuring out how to take care of a newborn!
I know some are probably interested to hear what race we decided to go for (based on my post last week) but for privacy issues, I'm not going to reveal anything specific about him or the case until we have him. ?
Thank you for sharing! I have fingers, toes, everything crossed that this works out as perfectly as you hope! You deserve it! I can't wait to hear more details and see pictures when your son is here!
((HUGS))
oh yay!!! How incredibly exciting!
I can't wait to hear updates. thank you so much for sharing.
I love the fact that you said in a previous post that you have to read up on how to take care of a newborn. When we got the call about Ben, I had never even held a newborn before, fed a baby, or changed a diaper. I had bought the book "What to Expect the 1st Year" before during our failed match and took it with me on the 12 hour trip. It was very helpful.
I've always been told that you just instinctively know what to do and when they placed Ben in my arms..I knew the love I felt for him was like no other. During those 1st few weeks of his late night feedings, I would tell him I didn't know what I was doing and that I would do my best and we would both learn together. Those moments with him (just me and him) at night are some of the moments I treasure more than anything else.
I think it's great that you're just saying you're matched and you will give details later. It's nice to have some privacy and to wait to give "all" details after you're sure everything will work out. Good for you!
Yeah, I'd say I know about adoption, but taking care of newborns? Nada. I told our pediatrician I was nervous and he said that it will all come to me and handed be a little guide he wrote on some general questions to help me if I got really stuck. We've some good reading material for the long journey.?
Our neighbor has a 5 week old and she spent Saturday showing me how to hold the baby in different positions, change her. We even tried out a bunch of the stuff in the nursery and everything passed. I feel a little better now that I survived the baby 101 and didn't do anything horrendous.
Thanks ladies and I'm crossing all fingers and toes that this is the one and that I can unveil the name! ?
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I'm so happy for you and your DH! I hope the next 2 weeks go by really quickly, too, and that you will get to meet your new son really soon really soon!
So excited!!!
Wow. Just. . . Wow!
I am so happy for you. Your match gives me (us) all hope for happy endings. So awesome - can't wait to read all the details.
Your post made me tear up. You are so very strong and wise.
I wish you all the love and success needed to bring your son home.
I think that the 'negative' side of adoption posts are needed, and while I would never want someone to go through the pain that you have with previous situation. It really does help many of us, I believe, see all sides of the adoption journey - it may also help better prepare us for when our match time comes. I think sharing your story and journey (the good and bad) is such an inspiration for the rest of us in humanity and life.
I'll be thinking of you over the next few weeks.
Wow. I got teary-eyed reading your post. I'm really pulling for you and DO think there is something to the whole gut feeling thing and the fact that everything is falling into place for you also makes it seem "meant to be".
Hope the next 2 weeks fly for you and that you'll be holding your son in your arms.
BB&J
"I have four children. Two are adopted. I forget which two. -Bob Constantine
"All for Love,' a Saviour prayed 'Abba Father have Your way. Though they know not what they do...Let the Cross draw men to You...."
Fabulous news!! You'll by on my mind and in my prayers!