feeling nervous

laz1119

hi, since becoming pregnant I am on these message boards every night. I have learned a lot from people's post,but lately I feel like I am reading about a lot of miscarriages. I feel so sad for them and wish them all the best. Maybe a lot is the wrong word to use, but it is kind of worrying me.  I  know I should just be embracing this blessing, and believe me I am, but I guess in the back of my mind are the 'what ifs".... I don't want to think like that, but I guess when I read people are miscarrying at 6-10 weeks I get worried.  I am just praying that all goes well....just needed to get that off my chest.

MidwestTexan

It's very common to be concerned when you've never gone through all of this before! At least you know that you have a great support system here if anything were to go wrong. Just try to keep a positive attitude!

CJ2008

I am totally in the same boat. We have already told a bunch of people, and everyday I am so relieved that nothing has gone wrong yet. I am trying to remember that if a m/c happens it is for a reason, and chances are better that I will have a happy, healthy baby! Everybody worries, but worrying does no good and can only do harm, so keep up the smiling face and it will be fine!

Bella263

I feel the same way. And I think it's only normal, sort of a way to stay a little disconnected "just in case." Because I know how upset I would be.

I was a mess until I found these boards. One of my posts was on m/c, and someone said that they changed the way they looked at the odds, instead of having a 10-20% of a m/c, they saw it as a 80-90% chance of a great pregnancy! I loved that and have really taken it to heart.

I think my faith helps me get through it, but for everyone it's something different. Try to find what makes you feel secure and confident and hold on to it!

MrsJAC

Me too. Before I m/c in October I kept feeling nervous about the possibility of a m/c. This time around, I am still nervous but I realize that there are just somethings that we have no control over and this is one of them. Every week that passes I fell better and better though.

Sorry - I know this post probaby didn't help either, but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and it is a pretty normal feeling.

Jessie0706

I can understand how scary it is to read those things, but try to keep in mind that you are a different woman than them and each pregnancy is different! And, not to sound grim or anything and this is NOT meant to make anyone's loss lighter, but if it's going to happen, it will. Just focus on being as healthy as you can for your growing baby and I am sure all will work out as it is supposed to. But, I know we all can relate to you. It is sometimes hard to "know" you're pregnant 24/7 when (sometimes) you're not always feeling sick and you can't feel the baby move yet... Hang in there and know we're all here for support!

MarisaC

It's natural to feel that way. Welcome to motherhood.

You never stop worrying.

neonvicki81

I am so like this too, I'm glad someone else is feeling about the same. I'm a worrier by nature and a control person too-I love to plan plan plan! But, its good to hear about the 80-90% rate of success.Plus, the experts say that most of the miscarriages happen without the woman even knowing that she was pregnant. That makes the numbers sound a little better!!

 

= ) But, I'm glad other people feel the same way. My DH listens to me very well, but as he is away this weekend, and we haven't told anyone yet..I feel a little isolated!! Thanks!

ju.vanderw

I was a wreck for a while, with all the worrying.  I really have to stay off any miscarriage articles...  They make me really paranoid.  Not that it's any consolation, but I've had to remind myself that if it's gonna happen, it will, and there's nothing you can do about it...  If it'll be a healthy pregnancy, it'll stick.  Try to stay positive, and don't read too much on m/c!