Vent - Long...comments from friend

TeamRey

So since I told a friend of mine I was pregnant I have had a few comments from her and I don't know if I am over-reacting or what.

First comment....when I told her I was pregnant, she went on to say how her and her husband want to have a baby but the time isn't right with stuff going on and after all that add BUT really I am happy for you.  I don't know, but the BUT really part just made me think um ok.

Second comment....I mentioned something that I had read in a pregnancy book (at this point I was about 5 weeks)....she says you are so funny that you are already reading books.  I thought to myself, this is my first baby, I have no clue what to expect, what I can and cannot do and eat (besides the obvious) and there is a reason that weeks 1-5 are in pregnancy books anyway...to read them.

Third comment....Husband and I want to get bikes to start going for bike rides.  She comments bike riding is fun, BUT you won't be able to ride them for long, I heard once you get big it is hard to keep your balance on a bike.  Now this may or may not be true.  I can't say for sure because this is my first pregnancy.  However I did look up online about biking while pregnant and several people posted that they biked up until their 8th month.

Maybe I am over-reacting, but she always seems to have a negative statement to add at the end of everything and I just don't get it.

planeNsimple

TeamRey:

So since I told a friend of mine I was pregnant I have had a few comments from her and I don't know if I am over-reacting or what.

First comment....when I told her I was pregnant, she went on to say how her and her husband want to have a baby but the time isn't right with stuff going on and after all that add BUT really I am happy for you.  I don't know, but the BUT really part just made me think um ok.

Second comment....I mentioned something that I had read in a pregnancy book (at this point I was about 5 weeks)....she says you are so funny that you are already reading books.  I thought to myself, this is my first baby, I have no clue what to expect, what I can and cannot do and eat (besides the obvious) and there is a reason that weeks 1-5 are in pregnancy books anyway...to read them.

Third comment....Husband and I want to get bikes to start going for bike rides.  She comments bike riding is fun, BUT you won't be able to ride them for long, I heard once you get big it is hard to keep your balance on a bike.  Now this may or may not be true.  I can't say for sure because this is my first pregnancy.  However I did look up online about biking while pregnant and several people posted that they biked up until their 8th month.

Maybe I am over-reacting, but she always seems to have a negative statement to add at the end of everything and I just don't get it.

Honestly, I think you are overreacting.  The first comment would probably sting.  But it just sounded like she all of the sudden felt like she had to explain why she wasn't at the point in life that you are.  The other comments are nothing in my opinion.  Sorry, just relax and stop looking in to everything.  Because if you look hard enough, you will find stuff to be mad at!

KimberlyJean

Could be she's jealous and taking jabs, could be that you are reading too much into it. I know I am someone who normally reads more into things than I should, and that my hormones are making it 10 times worse. Just try to remind yourself that it could be either, so if she's jealous she is hurting and could use compassion (despite the stupidity of her comments), or her comments are harmless and she could use some slack (since you might be making something out of nothing).

This part of pregnancy isn't fun is it?  

 

HerHighness

I dont think she is trying to be malicious. It sounds to me like there is a little bit of jealousy in there. I remember being a little jealous of my pregnant friends even though I was still on the pill and not currently trying. Maybe she is a little worried about losing the friendship as well. Some new mom's get involved with babes and other mothers and leave out their old friends (had it happen to me)

If she is a good friend I would tell her she hurt your feelings. My guess is she doesnt even realize it

mimimoo09

planeNsimple:

TeamRey:

So since I told a friend of mine I was pregnant I have had a few comments from her and I don't know if I am over-reacting or what.

First comment....when I told her I was pregnant, she went on to say how her and her husband want to have a baby but the time isn't right with stuff going on and after all that add BUT really I am happy for you.  I don't know, but the BUT really part just made me think um ok.

Second comment....I mentioned something that I had read in a pregnancy book (at this point I was about 5 weeks)....she says you are so funny that you are already reading books.  I thought to myself, this is my first baby, I have no clue what to expect, what I can and cannot do and eat (besides the obvious) and there is a reason that weeks 1-5 are in pregnancy books anyway...to read them.

Third comment....Husband and I want to get bikes to start going for bike rides.  She comments bike riding is fun, BUT you won't be able to ride them for long, I heard once you get big it is hard to keep your balance on a bike.  Now this may or may not be true.  I can't say for sure because this is my first pregnancy.  However I did look up online about biking while pregnant and several people posted that they biked up until their 8th month.

Maybe I am over-reacting, but she always seems to have a negative statement to add at the end of everything and I just don't get it.

Honestly, I think you are overreacting.  The first comment would probably sting.  But it just sounded like she all of the sudden felt like she had to explain why she wasn't at the point in life that you are.  The other comments are nothing in my opinion.  Sorry, just relax and stop looking in to everything.  Because if you look hard enough, you will find stuff to be mad at!

 

 

agree..... i think your overreacting. 

Lizzerd13

Sounds like your friend is jealous and can't get past it to be happy for you.  Don't talk to her too much about it and when you do, ignore her comments.  This is your time to be happy and she has no business raining on your parade!

TeamRey

Lizzerd13:

Sounds like your friend is jealous and can't get past it to be happy for you.  Don't talk to her too much about it and when you do, ignore her comments.  This is your time to be happy and she has no business raining on your parade!

Thanks!  I was thinking that, so I don't really  bring it up to her unless she brings it up to me.

TeamRey

KimberlyJean:

Could be she's jealous and taking jabs, could be that you are reading too much into it. I know I am someone who normally reads more into things than I should, and that my hormones are making it 10 times worse. Just try to remind yourself that it could be either, so if she's jealous she is hurting and could use compassion (despite the stupidity of her comments), or her comments are harmless and she could use some slack (since you might be making something out of nothing).

This part of pregnancy isn't fun is it?  

 

 

Thanks for the advice.

franciscaz

Yeah, I think you are majorly overreacting.  First off her earlier comment sounded like she was a little sad that she wasn't pregnant too.  Umm that means nothing against you.

The book comment shows a different attitude.  I never read baby books.  I had WTETFY as a reference after Harm came but that was it.

Here is a hint.  I have many non-mommy friends.  They don't understand what you are feeling and going through.  They also might get tired of hearing "BABY BABY BABY" especially if they want but can't have one at that time.  Try to be sensitive to her needs, it sounds like she is trying to be supportive to you.

gniddew

I do not think you are overreacting because it doesn't sound like you have snapped back or anything, but you may be a little overly sensitive in how you are interpreting her comments. That said, you are allowed to be overly sensitive (blame the hormones!). Just take what people say and move on.  Think of a really positive thing about being pregnant and it should help!

HapPapFam

I really dont think she was trying to be mean. Just try to ignore it I guess.