About PABST (from a lurker)

StephNJer

I hope I don't get flamed for this, but from an outside perspective, some PABST posts just seem really cruel and mean. Granted I don't know all of you that well, and it does seem like there are some real gems on here (like all boards) who need to be told off, but talking about how peoples DHs and kids look is just....mean. I just don't think that anyone deserves to have their kid made of, no matter what type of person they are. It just sort of reminds me of high school, and makes a lot of people worry that the PABST is about them, when it probably really isn't. I  don't know, I really enjoy reading posts on here, but honestly the PABST posts just seem really mean. Sorry.

MelandJeff

Uh, well, that is why they are anonymous. So that they arent mean.

And, we are big kids. We dont have to read the posts if we are afraid of what's in them.

MelandJeff

Uh, well, that is why they are anonymous. So that they arent mean.

And, we are big kids now. We dont have to read the posts if we are afraid of what's in them.

DandR

I agree with you and this is why I think if someone has a problem, rather than making the entire board paranoid, just tell that person.

 

mattslady

Did I miss something?  Who made fun of someone's DH and kids?

StephNJer

Nope, sorry, making it anonymous still makes it mean. Not to mention cowardly since you cant say it to them directly.

StephNJer

mattslady:

Did I miss something?  Who made fun of someone's DH and kids?

I don't know if anyone made fun of someone's DH today. When I first saw PABST a while back, I had no idea what it meant, so I opened the post, and on that particular one someone was making fun of how someone's DH looked. Can't remember who it was or the exact words.

excitedtobemrs

It's just a little game people play on the nest to pass time.

A lot of times the PABSTs aren't even about people here, they relate to IRL situations & someone just needs to vent.

I think when people make fun of someone's children, they're going too far...but otherwise, it's just something that's done here that people are or are not offended by.  Hell even KNOW YOUR NESTIE gets people up in arms with the "what? no one knows me?" stuff.

DaiLyght

It's cleansing

MelandJeff

And, who made fun of a child? If your talking about my PABST, I made an observation, do you cut your kids hair? Well, at any time prior to someone getting a haircut, they NEED one, right?

This one is just a little past due. Do not mix words or say that I made fun of a child because that is comepletely inaccurate.

And, some people have DB's for husbands, that is a fact. I am sorry that you find that mean, so do I actually. I find it more sad though. And, if someone has a fugly DH, well, I would rather post it anonymously than hurt someones feelings.

 Its a game, its meant for venting without hurting someones feelings. You do not have to participate. Just sayin'

StephNJer

MelandJeff:

And, who made fun of a child? If your talking about my PABST, I made an observation, do you cut your kids hair? Well, at any time prior to someone getting a haircut, they NEED one, right?

This one is just a little past due. Do not mix words or say that I made fun of a child because that is comepletely inaccurate.

And, some people have DB's for husbands, that is a fact. I am sorry that you find that mean, so do I actually. I find it more sad though. And, if someone has a fugly DH, well, I would rather post it anonymously than hurt someones feelings.

 Its a game, its meant for venting without hurting someones feelings. You do not have to participate. Just sayin'

Wow, no need to get all worked up. I didn't call YOU out, I just said, in general, from the PABST posts I've read, there seems to be one or two posts making fun of someone's kid or DH. I never said anything about you. Guilty much?

MelandJeff

I think I liked you better as a lurker

StephNJer

I'm sorry if my observation bothered you so much, especially considering that I wasn't even talking about you. Funny how you can post whatever you like about a specific person, but when I point out that I think PABST posts in general are mean, you took great offense to that.

BubblyToes

If you don't like it, go lurk elsewhere.  Or better yet, be an active part of the board rather than just lurking.

MelandJeff

my post specifically said IF (bold, italic, and underlined) you were referring to my post.

Your response to that is what annoyed me. "Guilty much?" is a pretty snarky thing to say to someone you do not know.

;-)

 

StephNJer

All right, look, sorry, ok? It just seemed to me that you were really getting worked up when you didn't even know if it was you I was talking about. My OP was just an observation, all I said was some of them just seem mean. I didn't even say ALL PABST posts are mean, just some. I think I have the right to post that.