Do you ever feel that you were so obsessed with GETTING pregnant...

greekgirl719

...that you don't know how to BE pregnant? I was so obsessed with reading about IF and talking about it with those that could relate, that I sort of blocked out anything about what to do once you already are. I have had so many friends get pregnant in the last two years but whenever they would talk about it, I would half-listen...afraid that would never be me talking about it. Now, I have no idea what I am supposed to eat or not supposed to eat, what happens when, etc. I have a few books and of course being on this board helps - and I am asking all of those friends a million questions now. Just wondering if anyone else feels like this? I was obsessed with getting pregnant for over two years and now that I am, I feel so unprepared!

oct11bride03

Definitely. I refused to read any books/websites or make any kind of plans. When I got my BFP I had to look up things like what to eat/not to eat, etc. because I had no idea. I think that's probably pretty common with IFers.

I'm also finding it hard to enjoy being pregnant. Most of the time I forget that I am, probably as a defense mechanism in case, God forbid, something goes wrong. I realized the other day that I'm almost 10 weeks and I haven't really allowed myself to get excited yet. I hope once the second tri comes I'll feel better, but for now I feel like I'm constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.

doolin

Absolutely.  I always joke with people that I was as prepared for pregnancy as someone who got knocked up behind the bowling alley ... even though we TTC'd for nearly 3 years.  I just wouldn't look ahead because I think I was too scared that I would never get PG.  And once I was PG, I kept feeling like I'd jinx it if I embraced it too much.  Craziness.  You do eventually navigate your way through ... but even now, I am registering way late just because I was too nervous to really shop for her until after 6 months ... that fear that this isn't real always sticks to me.

EdithR

In my case, after being obssessed with TTTC, I'm now overly obssessed with worries about m/c.  I"m always thinking this is too good to be true. I'm afraid to share the happy news thinking that with my luck, something will go wrong. A part of me is having trouble believing that I am really pregnant. 

As far as food, I've been searching for info online and watching what I eat (except for pizza, that is my weakness). 

Littlemac4

OMG, I feel the same way!  I feel so lost right now but I think my fear is more about not getting excited about the pregnancy because I could MC (I've had 2)...  I'm farther than I have ever been but I just don't feel like I am out of the woods.  Tomorrow I will have my 4th US and provided that all is well I will graduate from the RE...  tiny steps everyday I keep telling myself... but I'm still scared.

Partyof6?

I spent my first trimester worrying about miscarriage.  I spent most of my second worrying about delivering before viability.  We passed week 28, and I spent a few weeks thinking about micro-preemies, but knowing they had a good chance of survival. 

I hit 35 weeks, looked at my husband and said, "OMG, there are people inside me!  They are going to come out soon, they are going to want to be fed, and held, and we'll have to change them, and I don't know if we're ready for this!"   He answered something like what did you think the end result was going to be?  Didn't we start trying for this over 2 years ago? 

I think it's a natural consequence of dealing with the heartbreak of IF to go into pregnancy being skeptical, and waiting fo the other shoe to drop.  I don't think I actually believed it would all be okay until very recently. 

To all of you who are still in the early stages - you'll get through this, and I wish you the best!

mrspresley

i know how you feel!!

check out this blog...there is a good mix of women TTC, already PG, and a bit about IF too: www.pregosaur.com