fffc ... on monday night

jenerally

I feel like I'm cheating on Grayson by having Dashiell.

I spend hours and hours each day chasing, catching, loving, tickling, playing, and laughing with Gray ... and don't spend NEARLY as much time with Dash.

I'm grateful that DH loves Dash as much as he does and helps out as much as he does ... otherwise, I feel like Dash would have two parents who feel tepidly about him.

I am a terrible person and a horrible mother.

TheFannins729

I cheated my way through two years of HS Latin and have no idea what BB's GBCN really says!  lol. 

and, you are neither a terrible person or a horrible mother.  

adamwife

I feel the same.exact.way.  I was just telling DH this tonight.

With Gabe I spent so much time trying to stimulate him with toys and cuddle with him.  Now I don't have time for that, so poor David just sits in his swing or bouncy for most of the day while I entertain Gabe.

I guess the positive for David is that he benefits from all of the interaction with Gabe - the book reading and going to the park,etc.

I think it's normal.

laurandjim

I haven't gone through this myself but it's part of what is making me think about having just Simon.  I know a sibling would be great but it seems so hard in so many ways. 
Good on ya for being brave enough to try and strong enough to make it work every day!

Mrs.Hizzo

I feel that way, too, but the reason is exactly the opposite. I am completely in love with Clayton in a way I wasn't with Finn, when he was a newborn. I can't help it. With Finn, it was three months before I stopped feeling totally overwhelmed by being a mom and really started to enjoy him. He was such a tough baby. There were days when I thought, "this is not what I signed up for." Then things got better and I adored him, and have ever since, but...Clay stole my heart from the very beginning. He's just so darn sweet, and easy, and happy. I certainly don't love him more than Finn, but I've finally figured out why people love having little babies so much. And it makes me so sad that I missed out on that with my first. I feel like he and I both got cheated.

Gramyson

you are not terrible/horrible.

everytime i read a post about a shiitty husband, i feel guilty about not telling hubby how wonderful he is every second of every day.