I think I have to go back full time

Christakim

Which means daycare, something I've really not wanted to do.  I'm getting behind on bills and it's stressing DH and I out. I hate thinking that Ella is with a bunch of other kids who might be sick or roughhousing around her.  I don't want to think that she might fall down and I won't be there to make it better.  This is making me sick to my stomach.  Please tell me putting your child in daycare gets better.  I know that one of my huge concerns is that she's going to like the woman at daycare better than me.  I know, that's so stupid and petty, but I'll throw that out there too.

Mr.&MrsS

I am sorry you have to go through this! It is hard, but it does get better!! DS had a rough time adjusting and it made it that much harder for me to go to work everyday. And those first couple of months they called me a few times because he was crying and they couldnt get him to stop so I would leave work and get him and when he was with me he was great. He just needed to adjust to the teachers and being with 6 other babies all day. Now he LOVES it there. He loves the kids, he loves the teachers, and he learns so much there. He does get sick, but I figure if he isnt exposed to these things now he would get sick when he started school when he was older...it is going to happen at some point. I just hope he builds his immunity and doesnt get sick as much soon. (Actually it has been better the past couple of months, he is sick right now, but hasnt been sick for about 3 months). And trust me, Ella knows who her Mommy is and she will NEVER love someone more than you! Brady loves going to day care, but when I go to pick him up at the end of the day the smile on his face is worth everything! He dives to the ground and crawls over to me faster than I have ever seen him crawl. He knows those teachers take care of him 3 days a week, but he knows who Mommy is!! Once I get there at the end of the day I cant even put him back down without him getting upset because he wants me. She will adjust if you have to go back to work. I think it is harder on the parents than it is on the kids. Good luck!!!

tina623

I work in a daycare and have these fears. 

I've been told it's really hard to put your child in daycare and to give yourself a month or so until it gets easier.  I'm putting the girls in come Sept. and I'm dreading it. 

 

 

TheSkimmy

I'm sorry! Hugs!!!! Ella will ALWAYS love you more than anyone... you are her mommy!

AvaLikeLava

I can promise you it does get better. It is really, really rough the first day, but it progressively gets better.

On the bonus side you get a little one who learns from other kids, has older kids to model; is more independent; can spend time with other adults and isn't terrible about separation anexity. G also fell into a routine schedule within a week. He's napping like he never used to, eats really well. I think daycare is the best thing (developmentally) that could have happened to him.

Yes, E will get a little sick, but you might be surprised that it's not bad. Besides, you and DH leave the house and are occasionally around other sick adults/kids (adults are worse in my opinion esp. at work), so germs are always floating around.

Just keep thinking of all the positive things she'll get out of it.

Good luck!

pamela-matt

I am sorry. ?I don't have any advice b/c I have not gone through it in many, many years but I do feel your pain.