Big Problem

becs80

Hi ladies,

Dh and I have been "letting nature take it's course" since I got off the pill in October. My last period was January 25th. I have taken test after test, once a week since I became late. All tests are negative. So this morning I called my dr. and she said to come in and get a blood test to make sure I'm not pg.

Here is the problem, I have always been in the "drink till you see pink" mindset, and all of my home pg tests were negative. I drink heavily, like 3 drinks a day every day, maybe more on the weekends. I get in our hot tub. I use tanning beds. So I get my blood test results tomorrow and am totally freaking out. If I am pg I think there is a pretty good chance I harmed the baby with my lifestyle.

So, there it is. Anyone have any thoughts or comforting words to share?

 

Lyssapee

MUD, I hope?

LucyAnnie

Is possible you are not pregnant and are experiencing a super long cycle.  I know I have a few 60+ day cycles after BC.  

Maybe you should have thought about your lifestyle prior to TTC. I get the entire drink till its pink mentality, but still you were 2 months late.  Or not have waited almost 2 months to see your doctor.

 

Mrs.C042807

MUD fail.

Mysterious_wife

Chances are you are not far enough along to harm the fetus if you are pg.  The other issue could be the BC.   It can take a while for your body to regulate.  Stop drinking if you think you are pg. GL

horizon1322

In case it's not MUD, your cycle is going to be irregular post-HBC. If the tests are still coming up negative, you probably aren't pregnant. You don't share blood with the baby until 6 weeks anyway.

At this point, there's nothing you can do about it, so quit working yourself up about your phantom fetus. 

oh-zysbaby

If you're using the words "drinking heavily" and having at least 3 drinks a day, TTC is the least of your worries. This has to be MUD.

becs80

This is not mud. I figured the 5 or so negative pg tests were telling the truth. I have never heard of that many tests being wrong, especiallly after being this late.

horizon1322

Wait, didn't you post basically the same thing a few days ago? I remember someone freaking out about tanning beds and hot tubs.

Dr.BeepersWife

fredalina:

If this isn't MUD, you need to ask your doctor about an alcohol program.  Seriously?  3 drinks every single day and more on weekends?  i know i'm a prude but that spells problem for me, pregnant or not. 

After 6 weeks there's very much a potential problem for the baby from the drinking.  Hot tubs increase the chance of miscarriage, but probably won't directly harm the child him/herself.  But the alcohol can.

Let's hope you're anovulatory.  By the way, you should start charting now that you've had a good scare.  That is, AFTER your rehab program.

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horizon1322

fredalina:

If this isn't MUD, you need to ask your doctor about an alcohol program.  Seriously?  3 drinks every single day and more on weekends?  i know i'm a prude but that spells problem for me, pregnant or not. 

Oh, and this, too! 

LucyAnnie

horizon1322:

Wait, didn't you post basically the same thing a few days ago? I remember someone freaking out about tanning beds and hot tubs.

Yes she did.  Click her name to view her old post.  

becs80

Yes, that was me on Friday.

SoonerBred

horizon1322:

In case it's not MUD, your cycle is going to be irregular post-HBC. If the tests are still coming up negative, you probably aren't pregnant. You don't share blood with the baby until 6 weeks anyway.

At this point, there's nothing you can do about it, so quit working yourself up about your phantom fetus. 

actually that is not true. You never technically share blood, but as soon as the fetus implants you begin sharing nutrients. That is why it is so importnat that you take a folic acid supplemnt before you get pregnant, bacause as soon as implantation occurs the baby begins to get folic acid from the mother, and the neural tube is the first thing to form, long before 6 weeks. The baby nees nutrients and oxygen as soon as it startes to develope, so it much have a connection to the mother to get those things ASAP. Alcohol will cross over with the nutrients. So it is possible to harm the fretus with alcohol as soon as implantation has occured.

That being said, what is done is done and there is no reason to make yourself sick over past mistakes. I would highly recommend rethinking your lifestyle before TTC in the future. It is possible for a baby to get FAS symptoms before the mother knows she is pregnant, though unlikely. 

Mrs.C042807

https://community.thenestbaby.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/13210015.aspx

 

 

 

Nickie_M84

fredalina:

If this isn't MUD, you need to ask your doctor about an alcohol program.  Seriously?  3 drinks every single day and more on weekends?  i know i'm a prude but that spells problem for me, pregnant or not. 

After 6 weeks there's very much a potential problem for the baby from the drinking.  Hot tubs increase the chance of miscarriage, but probably won't directly harm the child him/herself.  But the alcohol can.

Let's hope you're anovulatory.  By the way, you should start charting now that you've had a good scare.  That is, AFTER your rehab program.

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mickey1330

I call MUD too, if not, then OP, you have a lot more to worry about before you try to get pregnant.

Mysterious_wife

fredalina:

Dude, if it's not MUD, and IF she is pregnant, she's 9+ weeks pregnant dating from LMP.  Unless she O'd and conceived late, it's very much a problem for the fetus.

You are correct. I did not realize she would be that far along, IF she Oed on CD14. 

organicmama

If you are TTC, then why are you drinking so heavily? You should try weaning yourself now.

hockeypirate

Please take this in the most non-judgmental way:

Why the hell does a person, a mother already no less, need to be drinking a minimum of 3 drinks a day during the week and more on the weekends??!! Seriously, if you're not pregnant, trying to get pregnant should be waaaaay down on the priority list. In fact, it should fall right off the bottom until you get your "lifestyle" figured out.

 That is all.

whaaaambulance

Wow, aren't you a stupid one.

buckin

WOW. Tanning beds, hot tubs, heavy alcohol use while TTCing and taking care of one child already. KLASSY.

I hope to sweet baby jesus that this is MUD because otherwise its just pathetic and stupid.

rorygirl218

buckin:

WOW. Tanning beds, hot tubs, heavy alcohol use while TTCing and taking care of one child already. KLASSY.

I hope to sweet baby jesus that this is MUD because otherwise its just pathetic and stupid.

this is exactly what i thought, that poor baby if you are pg