How long were you married before trying?

dbos99

Hi there!I was just recently married in February and already have babies on the brain! ?I am almost 32 and both my husband and I are ready to start trying. We have lived together for awhile, so we don't have the usual transition of getting used to being married, living together, etc. to go through.I guess I am wondering if there are other people out there like me, who are recently married and?ready to start trying. ?While I know that to each their own and for some people it means waiting awhile after marriage to enjoy just being with their husband. ?However, I don't think that is me. ?I would love to hear from other people who have had both experiences and why they either felt like waiting or got started right away.Thanks in advance!?

tri047

DH and I also lived together before we got married, so we had already made that transition.  Regardless we waited about a year to start trying.  Everybody is different, but I say if both of you are truly ready then go for it!  GL!

DNK777

We started trying before we were married.  Didn't get pregnant until we were married a year though.  I think for us the actually getting married thing wasn't too big of a deal because we had lived together for a while before getting married.

jlee1106

We got married last July and started preparing to ttc right away. Saving, check ups, things like that. Then we started officially ttc in January. I don't know what to say other that that we were both finally on the same page and it just felt right. More than that it felt very un-right to not. GL!

*edit* - we lived together too. For 2 yrs. I'm a huge fan of "living in sin."

wils0482

DH and I lived together for 3 yrs before we got married.  The wedding was Sept 2008, and we just started TTC after our honeymoon in Feb.  We talked about it a lot - he is actually the one who brought it up initially!

dmogmo

We also had lived together for a while before we got married, and practically lived together before that so marriage was not a huge transition for us.  We were married almost two years before we tried to get pg (and we were lucky enough to do so quickly). We just decided we were ready then.

Tz's_Bride_2B

We lived together before marriage as well so no real transition there.  We originally planned on waiting a year or so but 3 months after getting married we decided to start trying. 

Mommy2Gav

We were married for 7 months but had been together for 8.5 years.

texas77

we started trying even before we got married.  well i wasn't charting or anything but we stopped using birth control. 

BlairWaldorf

We waited 2 1/2 years. ?However, we were young when we married (23) and had never lived together before. ?We needed to get our finances straight, buy our first house, & spend some time growing up together.

If you're ready, then go for it.?

MamaKct

I stopped taking the pill after out honeymoon and we started trying right away.  We have been married for almost 4 1/2 years (together 9), we have an almost 3 1/2 year old and a 19 month old and we wouldn't have changed a thing. 

rls07

We were married in July 2007 and started TTC in March of 2008.  So a little less than a year.  We also lived together for awhile before we got married. 

Remme80

We were married for 2 1/2 years, but we had lived together for 6 years before we got married.  But I don't really think it matters how long you have or have not been married, I think it's more of if you are ready for children or not.  We have only really started wanting children for the past year or so, where as our SIL and BIL wanted them from the second they met and started TTC before they even got married.

hollybabe

We started trying on our honeymoon.  We had Nolan before we had a first anniversary and it caused some people to raise their eyebrows for some reason, but we wouldn't change anything!  We had been living together for over a year and already owned a home, etc. 

greenclown

We got married in November and started in February. ?We wanted to wait until our delayed honeymoon. ?We also lived together before we got married.

Penelope Drake

2 years

CassieD

We were only 22 & 23 when we got married, and while I thought I was ready at the time, I think it was great that we waited as long as we did. DH & I had been together since high school, but we definitely had some growing up and some learning to live together to do. We started trying about 3 years after we had been married.

yale

We were married 5.5 years before ttc. We had a lot we wanted to do before we started our family. We bought and remodeled our house, did some traveling and saved a ton of money. Now that I'm 32 and DH is 36 we feel ready. We like to plan for everything, so all the stuff we did up to this point made us more comfortable with ttc. I think it's different for everyone though.  

hgriffith

we have been married 3yrs in February and started ttc in December.  I was ready way before DH but I finally got him to come around

hippotree

We waited 8.5 years before TTC.  We got married very young (we were both 22) and I wanted to get through grad school and have a good job, a house, etc. before we thought about kids.  I am so glad we waited.

OregonPachey

Married in November of 2006 and started trying November of 2007.  We had lived together for several years before that as well.

GettinNervous

1-2 months prior to the wedding!!! I'm such a sinner.

mystic_J

DH and I were married over 5 years before we started TTC. I was 5 years younger than DH, and was not ready at all when we got married. I feel like now we have a great foundation with each other, and have had plenty of time to have fun just the two of us. However, I think every couple is different and some are ready a lot sooner than we were, and that's great too.

DH and I have always wanted children 'someday,' but it was not until last year we felt we were as emotionally and financially ready as we will ever be to begin the journey.

GL to you!

Meredith Shaw

We've been married for about 4.5 years and are just recently started TTC. We married young (23 & 25), so we decided to wait for a few years so that we could travel, become more financially stable, and just enjoy each other.

hainesherway

We started trying about 6 months after the wedding, but we are older (I'm 31 and DH is 29).

06162006bride

Same scenerio here but we moved a 1000 miles right after our big day so now we are finally ready to try since we are in our new house finally.  TP

KK2004

DH and I were married when I was 26 and he was 27.  I had just finished my Bachelor's and wanted to take a year off before going to graduate school.  I just finished my graduate program last June and we started TTC.  If I didn't have school in the way, we probably would have started TTC a lot sooner after the wedding. 

We dated for 5 years, lived together for 2 years after that and got engaged, and got married two years after that. 

I say if you are finanically stable and both you and DH are on the same page with TTC right away, go for it and GL!

 

mrs.dunk

Hmmm...we waited until about 3 days after we were married.  I was really hoping for a honeymoon baby, but here we are a year and a half later...

idavis

We were married in May 2008, and I stopped taking BC in July.  We had lived together for two years before we got married.

BellyDancrBride

I found my prince 7 1/2 years ago, and we married 3 1/2 years later.   For various reasons, we were not ready to have a baby until recently....and I mean recently (last Saturday night!).     Ever since we made the decision, it is like we have just fallen in love again.

When the time is right, you just know it, I think.

egsquared

We started trying after we had been married for six months.  I was almost 32 at that point.  We had also lived together for a long time before we got married, so we were also used to that as well.  I think we would've even started trying sooner, but we each had a couple big events that we wanted to get through before getting pregnant.  I think if you and DH feel ready for it, there's no need to wait. GL!

pookiebb

Hi. We had been together on and off since '96, moved in together in '04, married in October '06, and I stopped taking BCP in December of '08. GL!

WinsyWade

Everyone is different.  If you feel like you are both ready then you should do what you like in regard to ttc. 

Personally, my DH and I got pg with our son beofre we were married, and we started living together a few months before he was born.  It was a big transition for us especially once the baby came.  Once we were married (about 17 months after we first moved in together), we waited 9 months to try again, because that was when we felt comfortable and ready for another child.

Tweety578

We've been married a year and a half and just started trying. We also lived together before we got married. Plus, I was only 22 when we got married, but hubs was 29...it still felt like forever to start trying