Shower Question: WWYD?

PsychedForBaby

Three of my girlfriends are planning my baby shower to be held in our home.  This is going to be a friends and family shower as it will most likely be the only one.  We are looking at about 20-30 adult ladies.   

Here's the question.  My mom is bugging me that I didn't include my 7 1/2 and 9 yr old nieces on my guest list.  To be honest, I didn't even think about it.  If the girls come, they would be the only children besides a couple of  small infants that might be in attendance. 

The girls are usually pretty well behaved, but the older one definitely has her moods and if something doesn't go her way, she makes a scene.  If the girls come, will they become the gift openers and I become an observer?  I can see the girls being really excited to help, but their sibling rivalry always tends to flare up at the worst moments.  I just don't want any sort of scene at the shower.  Family is used to their behavior, but I don't really want to expose my friends to that. 

WWYD?  Would you extend the invite to include the girls? 

TIA!
Melissa

JillRock96

Honestly, unless you are very close to them, I wouldn't invite them.  They'll be extremely bored for one.  Two, this is your shower.  I know it may sound selfish to some, but I think that you should have the chance to open your own gifts and ooh and ahh over them.  I'm sure they have their own birthday parties to open their own gifts!

ABC-123

Uhhh, I don't know...  Would there be family strife if you didn't invite them?  Would the mom be on point to keep them entertained if you did?  I think that you need to decide what experience you want to have and go from there.

I guess I would invite them if the mom agreed to make sure that they were entertained and happy and it wouldn't fall upon your mom or yourself to do that.  Also, you are the guest of honor so if you want to open your gifts that is how it should be done.  Perhaps I would address it with the girls' mom (or have your mom do it) prior to the shower.  Maybe there is something they can be involved with that would keep them busy but out of the way.

However, if you think they would end up causing a scene or making your friends uncomfortable I would probably pass at inviting them...

Good luck!  I am not sure what I would do in the situation....

Mrs.Babbsy

If you are not close to the don't invite them.

If you do invite them, make sure you have something they can do like color, watch cartoons... something.

skoorbnibor

I had 2 little girls at my shower. 1 was my flower girl at my wedding, my best friends daughter, and her best friend (who I have known since she was born)

they were wonderful. They brought presents to me to open, were in charge of wrapping paper and bows, they showed presents around to all the guests and so on... They were great and to be honest, very helpful. Rachel can be a little moody, but she was excited and her Mom made sure to tell both her and her friend that this was about baby Ethan and they needed to be very helpful. Perhaps your Mom could make sure these kids understand, since she wants you to invite them? 

 

axr8111

My nieces were both invited because they were 8 and 10 and I remember vividly going to my aunts' showers and loved being included with the Ladies of the family. She did not help with gifts or anything. She just came with her mom.?