DH lied to me.

gabbeyh

Before DH took Eli to daycare this morning I called from work and asked how his morning was going.  DH said Eli had a big red mark on his head.  I said that was strange he didn't have it when I went in to give him a kiss before I left. 

DH had a 1/2 day today so he was home with DS all afternoon.  I talked to him a few times and he brought it up.  I asked if it was a rash, but he said no, a mark.

Fast forward to when I got home at 4:50 pm.  I go in the house and I see that his "red mark" is huge and more like a bump.  I kept saying I just don't understand what it is from.  DS went to a new daycare this morning so I was hoping it wasn't from there.  About 15 minutes later, DH said he had to tell me something.  DS actually fell off of our (very high) king bed when DH was in the shower.  Um, one why is he on the bed when you are in the shower?  Why did you wait until 5 pm to tell me when it happened at 7 am?  Why did you lie to me all day and say that he must have "bumped" his head?  I was livid and went to call the doctor because the red mark had actually sort of started to bruise.  Well, it was 5 pm so I had to call the afterhours clinic.  They said that it should be fine but because there is some bruising we have to watch him very closely for the next 48 hours. 

 DH is usually such a great dad so I just don't understand why he didn't tell me.  He said he didn't want to get yelled at...I understand that accidents happen but you don't lie about them. 

Please tell me that Eli will be ok.  They didn't want to see him because he is acting fine, hasn't vomitted, and doesn't have a fever.

 

tina623

I'm sorry .  I'm sure he will be okay.  I know your night is going to be long, mine would be as well.  I don't understand why he didn't tell you. 

ABC-123

I am sure that your little Eli will be okay.  I would be super scared and upset too...  I imagine your DH didn't tell you because he knew that he was wrong leaving him on the bed while he showered and didn't want to fess up.  Not that, that is a good reason...  I am just glad that your little man is doing okay and hopefully the next 48 hours will be extremely uneventful.  Hugs to you!

pamela-matt

I am sorry. ?I am sure your little guy will be okay. ?I am sure your DH did not tell you b/c he felt HORRIBLE. ?A few months ago, DS fell off our very high bed onto the wood floors and DH had brought him into the bed. ?I was home when it happened so I knew what was going on. ?My DH felt so bad about it...it made him sick. ?

Cut your DH some slack about the fall and tell him to cut himself some slack and learn from it. ?DON'T cut him slack for lying about it. ?Hopefully he understands that it is very important so that the doc can be called. ?(((HUGS)))?

LucyPevensie

I would take baby to the ER.  A bump on the head like that would frighten me - and as we know now because it's been in the media so much - a head injury can appear fine at first - and then not be.  I think a doctor needs to examine him.  Just my opinion. 

skoorbnibor

yes, he will be fine, and I am thinking maybe your husband was upset? maybe he was feeling guilty enough without worrying about your reaction? 

I would make sure he knows the bed is not a safe place for him, though!