I guess this is semi-stupid. It just seems a little odd to me that the shower is for me only, the invitations have my name only and the cake even has just my name. I mean, I didn't get myself pregnant.
Besides, these days men are so much more involved in child rearing than years before so gifts received are used by both parents.
Seems like an outdated thing to do.
Re: Why is the shower so focused on women?
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I started wondering this very same thing when it was ME filling out all the thank-you cards for OUR gifts.
*grumble*grumble*stupidcards*grumble*
Agreed. But its totally up to you. Both my babyshowers were co-ed.
DS is now 12... so a co-ed shower is not something new, just not common.
We had a "party" this time around and sent invitations with both our names.
Some of the men where like "we're not going," and BF had to intervine and explain that it was more of a party atmosphere celebrating the baby.
Everyone showed up, everyone dances, everyone had a good time. Plus, the men participated in the one and only game we had and had a blast!!
My DH isn't really that into it either. He went to our couples shower that a close group of friends threw and that was fine because it was small, but he would have hated being at the "traditional" shower. I agree with the OP that we didn't get pregnant on our own, but we are the ones that have been carrying the baby this entire time...I think we deserve a little bit of extra attention! LOL
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
Every latino shower I have been to is co-ed. I will say some that I have been to sometimes they are there, or they are just not.
Usually the men are just having a beer and socializing with the other men.
I agree with you 100%. Which is why, when my MIL asked if she could throw me a shower, I politely declined. There was no way that she would have thrown anything but a traditional shower, which I'm just not interested in. I once said something about how I found women-only baby showers a bit odd since it completely ignores the father, and she stared at me like I had two heads and stammered out "men don't get it". Don't get what?!
If we want our husbands to be full and equal partners, then we should treat them that way. We're both having this baby, and we certainly both had a hand in making it