New Moms: It really DOES get easier at 3 months!

SeaSoul

I had such a hard time when Cal was a newborn - the constant nursing, lack of freedom, lack of sleep, huge demands on my time, lack of connection with DH, getting little in return from Cal, constant worrying - and when I posted about it here I heard that it would get better at 3 months.  And guess what?  It has!  It certainly started to get better before that, and was a gradual process, but now at 3 months the best part is that Cal has established a bit of a routine...and DH & I actually have alone time in the evenings!  Cal goes to sleep anywhere between 7:30-9pm and stays asleep until he wakes to eat around 10:30-11:30 and this is much-appreciated time for DH & me!  So, hang in there...it really will get easier before you know it.  The smiles and interaction that start after the 1st month and just get better & better help a LOT too.

tina623

Yes it does!!  My cousin told me (shortly after her son turned 3 months) that she'd def have another.  Until that, she had said Mason was the only one because it was so hard.  Enjoy it (like that needs to be said )

bethCT

oh thank goodness - one third of the way there!

Alli321

That is good to hear!

laura1

Thanks for posting this - we had a terrible day yesterday, so I needed to know it got better!

JGirl2005

thanks, I can't wait until 3 months - well I can wait because I'm trying to enjoy every moment since they grow so fast.

Seasoul, then how does he sleep the rest of the night?  We have somewhat of a routine, but I'm hoping by 3 months it will get better.

trilady2

yes, it really does. well, my son was a preemie so for us it got better by 4 months, and by 6 months it was WAY easier. Hang in there, it goes so fast. The infant stage is long days but short months.

SeaSoul

JGirl2005:

Seasoul, then how does he sleep the rest of the night?  We have somewhat of a routine, but I'm hoping by 3 months it will get better.

It really varies - he's so unpredictable.  It all started when he was 2 months and slept one night for 6.5 hours.  That was a fluke, but he did continue to sleep from 3-5 hours at a stretch quite regularly.  THEN he hit his 3-month growth spurt and was up every hour for a week (my 1st week back at work, as luck would have it).  The week after that he was only waking every 2 hours and this week it's been more like every 3 hours.  The longest stretch of sleep is almost always that first one.  And another big difference I've noticed in recent weeks is that feedings are all business.  He wakes up, nurses for 5-10 minutes, falls asleep, and that's that.  So, not nearly as disruptive for ME as they used to be.  Hope your trend continues!

jsusann

Thank you SO much for the reminder. I know it gets better at 3 months after having Lilly but getting this reminder is like food for my soul!! Esp with two babies!!! You're the best!