Um, so DH thinks we should see the RE again...

crystalgirl · March 2009

Surprise

We have not been trying but not avoiding, either. Of course, we're still hardly ever having sex, so it's not like a surprise would be likely even without our IF issues...lol!

Anyway, since DH had his cancer, we don't know where we stand on the MFI front. We had planned that when we were "ready" we would go in for a new SA. Then, we would ttc on our own if it seemed somewhat better than before...bearing in mind that my endo would be coming back the longer we waited without success. And also, supposedly I have some diminished ovarian reserve issues, probably because of my bad endo and partial right ovary. We hadn't really entertained the idea of IVF, but this morning DH sort of sprung it on me. Kind of a "well, let's just see what they say" type of thing... Surprise

I admit, I have been feeling a bit antsy with all the PG #2 (or 3!) ladies around here. But it's hard to sort out all your feelings. Am I nostalgic for pregnancy? Having trouble coping with my baby growing into a big boy? Feeling guilty that he doesn't have a sibling? Or am I really ready for #2? How the heck can I tell with all these things swirling in my head...?

At the same time, I've been trying to come to terms with the idea of DS being our one and only.........though I've always wanted two...and would love to have a daughter.

*sigh*

Don't know where I'm going with this... Just letting it out, I guess! And uh, I guess we may be back "in the game" sooner than I thought!!!

pamela-matt · March 2009

Yay...I think...LOL

When you figure out how to sort out all of those thoughts, can you let me know. ?I know I am not nostalgic for pregnancy b/c that was a train wreck, but I have all the same thoughts. ?Good luck.?

beebe929 · March 2009

Good luck with your decisions. I am thinking similar things, but our baby is barely over 4 months! LOL.

All the #2's on here right now spurs this envy even though I am sure I am not ready.

Funny though I had this discussion with a IRL friend. She had a baby about 6 weeks before me. Her DH is ready again. So something about being a Dad is making all these guys want more! That is nice.

MNheidi · March 2009

W/ a child that looks like that, you owe the human race more children .

We go back and forth on a possible 3rd. It may sound frivilous after all we've been through but if we were guaranteed a girl, I'd do it w/out question.

good luck w/ your decision. Perhaps I'm over simplifying but it can't be as emotional as that first go around.

SkypekWithoutAC · March 2009

I have nothing to add, but your DS has the most beautiful eyes EVER. What a cutie!

cmw&tdm · March 2009

Good luck with your decision. Just know that things will work out no matter what direction you choose. How exciting that you could soon be pg again!

TheSkimmy · March 2009

I'm with Pamela... let me know when you figure out those thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!!

But I think your little man wants either a little brother or a little sister. just sayin

Jennifer Bliss-Wohlers · March 2009

I had ALL of those same feelings, even up to the day I got my BFP. BUT, I knew we wanted more children. Endo of story. When didn't matter as much. We ideally wanted them closer together (we'd love to have 3 or 4!) but we never in a million years guessed they'd be THIS close together! LOL.

My DH was also the one who was pushing the idea first. Whatever the reasons.... again, we knew we wanted more children. We also knew that hundreds of millions of people make it work with more than one young child at the same time - so we could too.

Whatever you decide, we're all here for you! But I have to go with the others and say...your DS is SOO cute, you owe it to society to make more cuties!

eyenerd · March 2009

I am right there with ya! I always thought that i would want to get pg right away....just to avoid my constant IF fears...

but my baby girl is sooooo sweeet right now and i love the individual attention that i am able to give her etc....

but when it all comes down to it, we really want another. I have gotten advice from IRL IFers who told me it is better to be tooo early than too late. So i am keeping with that thought.

You can always see the RE a little before you plan to conceive. That is what i am doing. I am going to see mine at the end of april. I plan on doing an FET in aug/sept. I just want to get all my bases covered in case there are any extra tests etc. I had polyps last time so they needed to be removed.

G-L! It is definitely a stressful process, but i hope that we are all in a better place this time around. Our little ones are simply perfect so if that is all we are blessed with, i say, why mess with perfection?