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OFFICIAL FFFC!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: OFFICIAL FFFC!!!!!!!!!!
I also love NBJenni...and I didn't vote for her in the belly contest. I voted for the last one, it is so gorgeous. Plus it wears on me when someone asks for votes every.single.day. And didn't she already get a free stroller before? I think I remember reading that in her blog awhile back.
Also...
I was listening to Dave Ramsey this morning on my iPod. Two callers in a row were SAHM's who were drowning in credit card debt. One had one kid who was 17 living at home, the others were in college. They had been racking up the debt for YEARS and she still never went out to get a job. It is one thing to stay home when they are little and struggle a bit, but when they are in HS and you are not struggling but DROWNING, go out and get a job!
I am also way judgemental of people who SAH who rely on government assistance for everything. If you cannot afford these thing, you can't afford to stay at home! (I hate that I am so judgey on that front...BFF has been a SAHM for years, on medicaid, Foodstamps, WIC, Section 8, etc. and still refuses to work...even with Coordinated Childcare that would take her kids for free)
- I went out to dinner with my client and colleagues last night. Because DH had to work late, I brought DD. We all order our food and I order DD a grilled cheese sandwich. Then, everyone else's food arrives, except for hers. It turns out her order wasn't put in... I was PISSED. She starts fussing & of course it takes them forever to get a fvcking grilled cheese sandwich out. Then they put the plate in front of her with searing hot fries (yeah I gave her fries!) & I was like "WTF, you can't just put hot food like that in front of a child, she'll burn herself!" So we get our checks... those Assholez charged me for her meal after all that. So yeah, I left a $2.50 tip on a $18 check. I usually tip at least 15% since I used to wait tables... but I know if the waiter was really sorry for his flub, he would have had the manager comp DD's meal. And if I have the time, I'm emailing corporate office this weekend about it.
- I promised DH that I would "make time" for him last night. I was supposed to leave the office early to pick up DD from DH's work & take her back to the office with me before dinner. But then my client called a last-minute meeting & I ended up leaving my office in DC during rush hour, driving to NoVA to pick up DD, then back to DC. I was exhausted by the time I got home last night!
-I've left DD in the grocery store to retrieve something from my car. However, it's my neighborhood store, and I am familiar with the customer service ladies there. So I have left her in her cart at the customer service counter while I run to my car to grab the coupons or whatever.
-Last week at the mall, I bought an iced white mocha & was drinking it while I shopped. DD wanted to hold it, so I let her hold it, figured she may take a sip or 2... well I turn around, next thing I know, the little stinker had pulled the top off & was gulping it down! By some good grace, I had no problem getting DD to sleep. But she goes crazy now when she sees me with Starbucks... because she wants some too!
-Some days I feel bad picking up DD from daycare, because she's running around having so much fun with the other kids. Like PP, I think daycare is good for my child. She goes to an in-home daycare and I think she benefits from the informal, yet more intimate environment.
-DD is upstairs on our bed watching Noggin while I nest... I think it's time that I bring her down for breakfast!
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Well, unless you swing that way, I think I am safe!
Malakai - 8.3.09
Ezra - 12.1.11 ASD
Where in VA are you from???
That dave ramsey thing would annoy me. I dont plan on staying home forever, that's for sure.
I'm with you on SAHM on assistance unless they couldn't make enough to cover the daycare cost. I don't understand however why they don't get weekend jobs or jobs opposite husbands schedule (lots of stores will work with you if you get a retail job) or why some husbands dont get second jobs if you are struggling for things like food or health insurance.
I think this race to be the one to post the FFFC thread is odd. I don't get it.
I work. DD is thriving in daycare. I see her everyday at lunchtime when I run over there to get some chubby cheek time with her. But I still feel guilty about not being a SAHM. DH told me the other day that he thinks I should go out and do more stuff on my own or with friends, but on the weekends I just want to spend time with DD because she's in daycare all week.
And I am so tired of comments about "having to work" and it being "too bad" I can't be a SAHM. I have worked damn hard at my career and am successful, dammit. I don't have to apologize for it. And now when people learn DH was laid off and I assure them by saying that we are lucky we can take care of things on my salary, thinking this will help them not worry, their shock that I actually am a decent breadwinner really pisses me off. Just because I am a WOMAN and he is a MAN doesn't mean I can't support my family. I don't brag. I don't talk about my work. When people ask me what I do, I simply say "I'm in HR". And people make this assumption that I am an admin asst or something. Nothing against admin assistants, but I am a g-dd-m vice president and it's the assumption that as a woman I must be in a lesser role that pisses me off. Bah!
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
That's funny, was it me??
I'm in Richmond. But I've also lived in several places in New England. So no one is safe!
I think the government should provide some income/assistance to SAHM's with kids of a certain age.
i'm glad this post is going strong
and... this sounds horrible but i'm going to say it anyway.
i can fit into my size 4s already, and i'm excited to show it off next weekend when i go see my family. i can't wait to hear everyone comment about it. i know my sister's feelings will be hurt, because she had 2 kids back-to-back and gained A LOT of weight with both, and she has trouble losing--even though she tries.
i don't try at all. i sit on the couch and eat pints of ice cream. it wasn't until last month that i started working out. i still eat garbage.
she's better than me in every other sense, so at least i can look better.
I have 2-
- I handle all the finances in our house. I tell DH there is less $$ in the bank than their really is b/c if he knows we have a little extra money he will blow it on stupid, useless stuff. Then when we need that extra it will be gone. So it's just my little secret.
- I keep having weird dreams about ex-boyfriends or other random guys that I know. The last one I had two nights ago I was sneaking around behind DH's back with his best friend! I don't look at any other guy in that way which makes the dreams even stranger...
In central VA, not NOVA
i hate you. i was still up 10 when i got PG again. i will be like your sister -- i know it.
Normally I'd agree, but NBJenni is trying to win the contest so that she can give the prize to her SIL who is expecting. She's not trying to win the contest for herself.?
LOL Good for you!!!
Altho i'm slightly jealous at the same time because while i'm *this close* to getting back into the rest of my size 4's, the only other thing I got from eating like crap is freakin gallstones. haha I have to get my gallbladder out next week.
Since I did this at 12am I have done some thinking and have a couple. -still havent put my wedding rings back, I'm revolting until DH stops acting like an a_*hat. -I'm so desperate to lose the last 10 lbs of weight that I've been taking diet pills (I dont bf) and am starting the shred (but the big issue is I'm sliding back into some veryyy bad habits that I had in hs and postcollege, like playing a game to see how little I can eat). -I am angry at my dad, hes been out of work since september, and I clled in a favor with a friend and got him an under the table gig (cash) to dispatch at a toing company, and he had the gall to act snooty about it. I'm pissed b/c I went on a limb to get them non-taxed $ and b/c I dont think he has been trying to get a job AT ALL, which is bad b/c my mom might lose hers, and I fear that they will become DH and my problem financially. I am pissed as hell at a family member who has a special role in DD life. They didnt even bother to get her a freakin card for her first x-mas or any other holiday, not to mention totally blew off my birthday. Its not money, they have plenty, and I resent the fact that I spent time and money for each holiday to make their DC feel special.
Clarification. My post was not directed at NBJenni. I have been thinking about this all week. I just see it a lot on here, and on other boards besides this one.
I am happy that you have lost the weight and you feel good about yourself...but I don't really equate "slim" with "good looking" at all times. Someone can be a size 6 and still be better looking than someone who is a size 2. My 6' size 6 sister will look like a hag when she is 30, and I think I look pretty young at 31. I also don't understand why you think she is better than you in every other sense, you have a nice life, I am sure there are many things about you other than your size that she is envious of.
Even though it's for the best, i'm sad for my sister because she's 25 and had to get her tubes tied at the beginning of the week.
I have to get my gallbladder out and I plan on milking my recovery to the fullest extent because I want DH to dote over me and try to run the household himself to see what it's like for me on a daily basis. haha
I also dont plan on telling IL's that i'm having surgery because I know they'll try and swoop in and try to take control of the situation and i'm not having it... DH will be returning from a work trip the day after my surgery and I am staying with my parents (w/DD and the dog) until he gets home.
I have pulled up in front of the gas station to pay before, it was below zero and I couldnt find my card. I was no dragging the baby out of the car in that weather.
I love my new job and actually look forward to going. It gives me something to do that I feel is actually worth my time and it gets me out of the house. Im an office manager and for once its something that Im actually not ashamed to tell people.
I get to go back to school in May and Im extreamly excited, by next year I should be out and I love every damn minute of the idea. Im excited about making my own money and getting somewhere in life. Yes Im one of those people that think you have to make money and do something for yourself to actually be somebody.
Hm, this is a DIRECT QUOTE from you last week:
I think that if you have an established friendship off nest, and then something happens and you aren't friends anymore - I think it's completely pathetic to bring your drama to the nest. If your relationship has developed to an off nest one, at least have the respect to keep it off nest. That goes for the cooters, that goes for the drama with menzel, and the group I used to be close with. It's one thing to be a ***, but backstabbing is low.
It is absolutely hilarious to watch you be such a hypocrite day in and day out. Get off your high horse, and call Katey out rather than post crap like this. Or are you afraid that you'll get hosed like Hippy because more people like Katey than you?
Wow. The proudest role in my life is that of Mama, and it's given me a whole new sense of purpose that was previously missing. Something I don't get from the job where I make money.
My silly Lily is almost 4.
This is sad.
I can appreciate Tiffani's posistion but I agree with K8's. I only feel guilty about loving SAH so much when I consider my student loans. And after 4yrs of gradschool those babies ain't cheap.
Ok you have got me on that one, aside from having my beautiful daughter. I was not counting having children. Aside from having my daughter Im one of those people that believe that you should be able to make your own money, not depend on anyone to get by, and such.
I have random dreams like this and I enjoy them..HAHA!! Adds a little spice and to be honest they put me in the mood : )
okay, that made me feel much better
I do this too. MH is awful with finances- though no one can tell him that; he thinks he knows all.
I have another one. I can't stand my BIL. I have a couple of BILs, but the one that is closest to my age gets on my last nerves. He has a baby (I've posted about them before), has moved into his GF's mother's 2 bedroom condo b/c they can't afford to pay their mortgage, and wants to begin TTC for another baby in May.
He works construction and doesn't make enough money to really help his GF out. She can barely make ends meet, yet he spends his afternoons (I'm on Spring Break, so I know this- and I saw it when I was on Winter Break) at my house playing X-Box in our Bonus Room while his GF pays for childcare. It infuriates me!!! He needs to grow up and get a 2nd job!!
I can not stand how my in laws have no work ethic or concept of responsibility, and I blame it all on MIL's parenting. IMO, she didn't teach her children these things like I vividily remember my father teaching/discussing with me.
I only have a few pounds left but I just want to get rid of this jiggly belly.... UGH... and I don't know how!!!!!!!!!
I feel like every couple of months this board (or this group of people that have been on the same board with each other for a while) has to go through a huge dramaz-fest, and it's starting to get REALLY old. It has been easy for me to ignore before because I wasn't directly involved in it ... but now people who have been my nestie-friends for a long time are hella involved and I feel like I am too.
I am TIRED of it. Our kids aren't sleeping 20 hours a day anymore, and honestly, my baby is way more fun to hang out with these days. I lurk WAY more than I post these days because honestly, my kid seems more mature than some of the ladies on this board. I am way more interested in my son learning how to climb up a stair than who said what to who 5 months ago off-nest and lets air it out for others yadda yadda yadda.
If you need to call someone out, do it in a mature fashion. And do it for an IMPORTANT reason. This whole 'well I'm a better person than she is because she said XYZ in chatz 4 months ago' crap is farking ridiculous. I'm really tired of people trying to come across as queen of the nest.
For fark's sake, go play with your child.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
Agree! Agree! I don't get on the nest on weekends or at night anymore because I just like to spend time with my child and husband! Robbie is a blast to hang out with. There's no way I'd want to sit on the internet while I could be playing with him. I'll be part time in about a month (or depending on what my company does, possibly a SAHM!) and I doubt I'll get online at all on the days that I'm home.
For you, from Katey, to whom you should have addressed this post, and then I'm really not going to address this again:
"I'm not going to stoop to what you'd enjoy, which is me trotting back to the Nest to prove your point. I take my religion seriously. You take mocking religion seriously. That's cool. To each their own.
Here's the thing. Perhaps you hold me to a higher standard than I hold myself; I am human, and therefore it is entirely possible that, from time to time, I will fail. I gave into temptation. Wow, you are so cool for calling me out about it on the Nest. Good for you. I think other people understand, and sympathize with the struggle it takes to stick to a commitment - be it religious or otherwise. We fall, we pick ourselves up, we ask for penance and we move on.
Again, kudos for being a giant hypocrite. I salute you."
That new leaf you supposedly turned over in that ridiculous post last night? It took you less than twelve hours to completely revert to form.