New, introduction and so depressed...

SNB2B

Hi. My name is Stacey. I'm coming to join you on this board if that's ok. I know that I posted before about my husband's cancer diagnosis. Well, we went and saw our RE today and he let us know that they only banked 4 vials from before DH had cancer so our only option to get pregnant is IVF. I'm scared, I'm worried and I just don't know what to do. I (like most of you) never thought I'd be having to deal with this...any advice would be much appreciated.

*Willis*

No advice, I just wanted to welcome you to the board.  I can't believe how overwhelming things must feel now.  That is a lot of information to digest in a short amount of time.  I think all you can do is take things one step at a time.  And vent a lot on here

epphd

I know it is a LOT to take in right now, but in a way, it's great to go straight to IVF.  It has by far the best success rate of any treatment and with luck, one shot will be all you need.  I have a brief description of the IVF process in my bio. A lot of girls recommend The Couples Guide to IVF for a good primer as well. 

I will tell you that as you begin to plan your treatment you will be overwhelmed.  But try not to look at the whole process right away - look at it in chunks.  It turns out that it's actually very do-able and not nearly as "hard" as it might seem. 

We'll all be here to cheer you on so feel free to ask all the questions you need.

GL!!!

futuremom2b

Welcome to the board!  IF, IVF and all that stuff has been overwhelming to all of us at first, but if we can get through it, so can you.    Just remember to take things one day at a time and come here and post any questions you have!  Or if you're just looking for support, we're here. 

I remember how much my head was spinning at first and how depressed I was, but you know what?  I got over that stage and I persevered just like the rest of the girls here.  Sure, we all have our bad days and stress, but things do become more manageable. 

Again, welcome!

Sade Aluko

Welcome. I hope you get pregnant soon so your stay will be short. People on the board are very helpful in answering your questions or trying to ease your frustruation. Definitely as the pp said, IVF can be overwhelming. It may be helpful if you take a few months to learn about IVF so it doesnt seem as overwhelming and you hopefully will be less worried. It would be great if you get to the point where you may actually be excited when you are about to begin the different stages of IVF. I hope your DH is doing well.  Good luck!

scatterbrainliz

The women on here are outstanding group of women.  You will find a lot of support on here.

Best of luck to you & your husband!

caityr

I know this seems like the scariest thing in the world but your doctor will make it happen for you. Just be glad you were able to get the amount you did. We are all here for you though and understand how hard it is (((hugs))).

LuvBugKel

DH and I were told at our first RE appointment last week to go straight to IVF as well.  It's very overwhelming, I freaked out for a good two days but then it starts to process and it's not as scary.  Actually I feel more at ease now than I have for a good two years.  Try not to look at the whole picture but rather chunk it up into little pieces.  I started by looking at financing/insurance because that is the biggest headache, once you get your mind around that it's a walk in the park.  Ok maybe not but trust me it gets easier each day.  The woman on this board are awesome and will be here for you every single step of the way don't be afraid to ask for help!!! 

ChaynBill

I don't have much info. to offer you but I just wanted to say welcome.

jcombs

Welcome!  You're more than welcome to join our IVF check in on Tuesdays and Thursday so you might find ladies cycling at the same time as you.  And feel free to ask questions...IVF is complex enough but you deserve to be well informed...it makes the process a bit easier.

igh0318

Welcome...you will find a lot of great info and support here. 

IVF is overwhelming at first.  Many of us have, or are, going through it.  Take it one step at a time and feel free to ask questions and vent whenever you need to.  Best of luck to you! 

momma mimi

I don't have any adviIce really. Haven't had to do IVF yet. I know it's a lot to take in. What has helped me the most during this time is to learn as much as I can about the meds/procedures. Best of luck to you and welcome to the group.