Poll: do you call your chem pregnancy a m/c?

katerena

I never know what to say when doctors and specialists ask me if I've ever been pregnant or had a m/c.  I usually just say I've had a 1/2 a miscarriage.  My RE said that he couldn't call it a pregnancy for statistical reasons (my levels never got over 25, but I was pretty close), but that emotionally I had to decide what to call it and that it was totally fair to consider myself pregnant.

So, I feel like I need to acknowledge it as something that was kind of big, but I don't feel like I lost a baby, you know??

How do you explain it?

Jarms01

Both of mine were c/p, so when I discuss it with Drs I tell them until how many weeks.  With family and friends I just call it a miscarraige b/c as fredalina stated, they don't usually understand c/p.  I am very sorry for your loss.

samk213

A loss is a loss and I'm sorry for your loss.  I've had three and I call my first and third losses m/c because I was 6wks and 7wks respectively.  With the second, I got a BFP but started bleeding a day or two later and I didn't do a beta, I call it a chem/pg but I still consider it a loss.

MontyMrs

When I talk to Dr's of people who understand this process I say c/p/ ?When I'm explaining it to friends I'll call it a very early miscarriage. ?

Dr.Loretta

I call it a miscarriage, because that's what it was. My RE calls it a biochemical pregnancy, which made a bit more sense to me. I had a baby that implanted, and then it died.

I don't understand the callousness of drs. who dismiss it as "not a pregnancy". I was pregnant. 3 times. I just didn't make it to deliver.

lovemymonkey

When speaking with doctors, I call it a chemical pregnancy.

When speaking with family and friends, I call it an early miscarriage. When I say "chemical pregnancy", everyone looks at me like I have two heads and then I have to explain it and they still look at me like I have two heads...

harley12

I have had 3 chemical pregnanices this year! When speaking with RE, chemical pregnancy. Everyone else a miscarriage. I had a first beta of 364 and a 2nd beta of 565 with my last FET, so that didn't really feel like my last chemical pregnanices which were 12 and 18, but there was nothing at the ultrasound so I guess technically that's still chemical? It's such a gray, sucky area.

Meepit

My RE and Ob/Gyn know I prefer to refer to it as an "early loss." I've had other medical personnel not know what a "chemical pregnancy" is, so I just tell them I had a very early miscarriage.

During the beautiful week that I was pregnant, for all intents and purposes, I was more joyful and happy than I've ever been before or since.  I defy anyone to take that away from me by telling me that I wasn't pregnant enough for it to count, or for me to miss that little spark life inside of me.

I think it's a loss, any way you slice it, because, at the very least, you've had the excitement, and the joy of seeing a positive test, or hearing that first beta, and then it goes away.  Whether that's the death of a baby, or just a reduction in a particular hormone, it still means an emotional loss of that excitement and joy.

That said, I think everyone needs to deal with it in their own way, so I'll never disagree with someone who says she had a chemical pregnancy.