Co-worker put wife's u/s picture on screen saver

sescms2004

So, my co-worker just announced today that his wife is pregnant.  Come to find out she's only 7 1/2 weeks, which mortifies me.  After having 3 losses, I can't imagine telling ANYONE until I'm well out of the first tri. 

I just turned around at my desk, and saw that he put his wife's u/s picture up on his screen as his backdrop when his p/c is locked.  My stomach just dropped.  Not to mention, he has 2 monitors, so it's a double slap in the face.  Every time I get up and turn around. 

Work was the one place where I could forget about IF during the day.  Not anymore

Nerwak

OMG. I'm totally with you. Why would you do that (him - not you)? Man, I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.

lilmel6

Ouch. Maybe you could put an "anonymous" post-it on his desk that says, "Not everyone enjoys looking at the inside of your wife's uterus." I don't know why anyone would announce it so early like that.

RFBsbride

That's just obnoxious - and I would feel that way even if I wasn't going through IVF.  I can never see anything on those u/s pics anyway, so why post them!?  Not only that, 7 1/2 weeks is WAY too early to be making the big announcement. 

We have friends that announced at only 4 weeks and everyone gasped because it was so early (it also didn't help that they announced it to about 100 people over a PA system!)

k&b51907

I can understand their excitement but it really is so early. Every time he leaves his desk you should go shut off his monitor when no one is looking..lol.

chrissyt27

WOW, that's super ealy. Annoying too. After my m/c I am thinking of waiting till 15 or so weeks. Hardly anyone knew last time, but it was still hard enough. I am not sure there is much you can do, maybe if your office is big he wouldn't know you did it, you could shut his monitor off, or leave a note, but my office is just 6 people so it would get weird if they knew it was me.

Zanymermaid

Is nothing private anymore? Why would he assume everyone wants to see his wife's u/s picture on his screen saver? Is he the kind of person you would feel comfortable talking to? I would suggest that his screen saver is inappropriate and ask him to change it.