I wish last night had never happened...

lizlemon77

I knew this day was coming but it ended up being a whole lot worse than I expected.  Last night I had to go shopping for my Matron of Honor dress for my sister's wedding.  It's only me and her best friend standing up.

We picked a bridal store that is known for having a large selection of sizes to try on.  They even have a plus size section.  I still could not fit into any of them.  It didn't help that her BF is much smaller than me and that we have much different taste in dresses.

It's been a long time since I've felt this badly about myself.  I don't even want to look in a mirror anymore. 

Any words of encouragement would be great.  I've been trying hard and have lost a pound a week for the last twenty four weeks, but after last night it might as well have been nothing.  I usually talk to my sister about everything but I don't want her to feel bad about this.

thanks for reading.

aprilmomtobe

(((hugs)))

I'm sorry - I know how it feels, trust me!  But I'm sure you look at a lot better than you think - just look at your sig pic!

weddings are always tough for me when it comes to my weight issues.  Great job on your weight loss so far though!!

monchichi

Don't beat yourself up! ?I am in the same boat and really wish I could lose faster. ?Please focus on your accomplishments and realize that you can still be smaller by the time the wedding rolls around......just have the dress altered. ?No matter what, though, your body has given you two beautiful children. It would be another thing if you weren't on track and trying to improve you health, but you are doing great!

Brewster

Oh no!  I am so sorry you are going through this.  I went through something similar after I had Noah, but I ended up backing out of the wedding b/c I was too embarrassed.  Then I started WW and it was the best thing I ever did.  I lost 50 pounds in about 6 months.  It really works. 

Try not to beat yourself up and just move forward from here.  I totally feel your pain.  ((hugs))

surfergirl28

I don't have much advice, BUT since you're a Wisconsinite too, I can confidently say that once the weather starts STAYING nice and warm, I bet you'll be able to shed a bunch more since you can walk/run outside, chase after the girls, etc. I always gain weight in the winter--it's just so depressing and horrible. Once April rolls around, you'll feel much more motivated. Good luck!

misses625

I am so sorry, hon. I agree with the PP, though.  Weddings are tough...and those dresses are ALWAYS made way too small.  I'm normally a size 10/12, and my bridesmaid dress for my bf wedding this summer is a 16.  Please don't get so down on yourself.  I think you look beautiful, and you have gorgeous children to show off.  Congrats on losing all of that weight, too! 

AnnapolisLari

I know the feeling. I have to find a dress for my brother's wedding and I am dreading it.

24 pounds is AWESOME. I would talk to your sister. Can you wear different styles of dress in the same color or something?

Just so you know that I am not a skinny minnie size 2-- my WW goal is about a 90-95 pound loss. I've lost 11.2 so far.

DaiLyght

(((hugs)))

24 pounds is A LOT and you should be so proud of yourself! I know it's so hard to not compare yourself to other people, trust me, but you are doing so good! Besides, bridal stores are the most f'ed up places for self esteem. Everything is way too small, regardless of the number on the tag. I know it's hard, but try not to let it get to you. You're doing so well. Little goals take a little time, but the big ones that really matter take a long time. They're worth waiting for.

Is it possible since it's just the two of you that you can wear different dresses, just in the same color? I always thought that was such a nice look - it really lets the BM's wear what suits them best and shows their individuality.

amanda&rob

You have lost 24 pounds.  That is great!  You will get there, just keep working )  And I have to second the summertime is coming thing.  Weight will come off a lot faster when you are running around outside with the kiddos. 

lizlemon77

Thank you so much girls.  I keep reminding myself that I have these two beautiful girls and my body did that.  It's not a coincidence that I'm hiding behind my kids in every picture I take.  I just hate the idea of looking at my sisters wedding pictures and only feeling shame for how I look.

The wedding isn't until Oct so I thought I had lots of time.  Trying on dresses really snuck up on me!

kylara111

A bridal store could make a size 0 supermodel feel like an elephant.  The sizes always run so ridiculously small.  You look beautiful in your sig pic!

mikeandmonica

HUGS! I know exactly what you are going through. I have 100+ pounds to lose (I'm down about 13 so far), and I have a few things happen that made me realize I had hit bottom. 1) I was putting together a photo montage for DS1's birthday - and found hardly ANY photos of me with him to put in there. Why? I avoid the camera because I'm fat. I realized that I want my kids to have photos of me with them and I need to change my weight for that to happen. 2) I had my 10 year high school reunion. Although I was thrilled to see everyone, once we got there, I didn't really want to go talk with anyone because they would see how much weight I have gained (literally over 130 pounds since high school). I realized that my confidence was gone. Ugh. 3) I was in a friend's wedding (and this is the big one). I looked so horrible in the dress that I haven't even really been able to LOOK at her wedding photos because I'm so ashamed of what I look like in the dress. Well, that and dress shopping and not being able to try any of them on because I was so fat. Losing the weight you have is awesome! You are supposed to be able to keep it off when you lose it slowly (as you have been doing). Just order the dress in whatever size you need it to be right now, and it will be an even better reward to be able to have it altered WAY down the line when it is time for the wedding and realize that you need it MUCH smaller than you ordered it! Good luck, and if you need support, that is what we're here for! Like I said, I'm on my way to losing 100 pounds. I'm not doing WW or anything, but just working out, tracking my food, and hoping for the best. Good luck! And HUGS - I know how rough it is.