Carry on the name??

MrsBenke2B

My grandfather and father are both Donald. I am my father's only biological child. He named me Dawn after them. He "just knew" he wouldn't have any other biological children. So... now I have the honor/duty of carrying on the name. I honestly hate my name and always have. However, I feel like since i am his only child I HAVE to pass it on. He constantly calls the baby Little Donnie. I don't want to hurt him but he knows I already have names picked out. What to do???

userdeleted

Middle name?

Don't choose it as your child's name just because your dad likes it. I think it would be nice to honor him by using it as a middle name, but I don't think you should feel pressured to do so.

StephB25

I think children have a right to have their own name.  I am not against naming after someone, but if you don't like the name, what can you do? 

Can you honor their name another way? Initials, or meaning (like, just and example, mom is Aurora, but you are Dawn?), or put your maiden name as a middle name or something?

If you must, just keep saying "We haven't decided on a name, and when we do it will be a surprise." And when Baby comes, give him his own name and no one will care cause he is so adorable!

jennings235

I think if it is important to you then you should carry on the tradition.  If it isnt then dont feel like you have to.

Is there variations of the name that you could use?  Or maybe you could use it as a middle name instead of fn. 

mrs.cupcake

I agree that if it is an important family tradition, maybe you could find a way to incorporate the "essence" of the name in a way you like. Is there another, similar name that you like (example: Donavan, Donnell, or something?)

GL!

LMS05

Gosh, what a tough situation. Maybe use it as a middle name? I'm using a middle name for my dd that I don't love, but it's a family name. Good luck to you!

SBH0078

I agree with pp, use it as a middle name.

Mandy M

Honestly, I would let him know that you're not crazy about carrying it on. IMO, it's better than looking back and wishing you had had the balls to do it because you don't like your child's name. It's not worth messing up something so important. It's completely up to you what you want to name your children- and that's AWFUL of your dad to try and force something upon you. Using it as a middle name is okay too, but if you don't really like it- why would you do it? A name is just too important.

Your dad will be upset, but like pp said, he won't care once your son arrives!

GL!

tai_carter

Does your dad have a last name that could be used as a middle name?  That would be another way to carry on a family name.  Or could you use your dad's middle name?  Im not crazy about Donald or Donnie either.

GL.

beckys96

Could you use it as a middle name?  Don't let him guilt you into using it.  Use what you like!

JnJHud

What about Donovan?

EastCoastBride

StephB25:

I think children have a right to have their own name.  I am not against naming after someone, but if you don't like the name, what can you do? 

this is the crux of my "issue" w/ naming traditions.  people feel like they HAVE to do it regardless if they really want to. 

we broke the naming w/ our kid and dh's parents were upset.  esp because we picked an uncommon irish name. they like "family names".  well, for one, ds has my maiden name as his middle name and he obviously has their last name.  how much more "family" can you get?

second, they got their chance to use family names w/ their kids!  its OUR turn and we picked a name we simply liked!

Lopo

I don't think it's fair for your family to assume you will name your little boy Donald.  If you choose to include his name somehow then fine...but if you are thinking of something else, you shouldn't feel bad for that decision at all.  GL!

kristen230

Its your child, they got their turn with you and now its your turn. I would name the child what you want and explain you just don't love the name, you can do that in a respectful way.

delem

Ahhh, we'll run into this issue when we start TTC!! DH is a third, so he goes by Trey which is a cute name that has actually started to become popular recently as a first name. His full name is Harry Edward (last name is a fruit)...soooo Harry (fruit). I refuse to do this to my child and there are no cute nn's for the fourth, soooo we'll probably do Harrison Edward if/when the time comes!! My suggestion would to find something that relates to his name, but don't use it if you hate it because you'll regret that!! Not to mention, this is your child and your chance to name him...honor him with a name you both love! Good Luck!?

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thenewmrsrussell

what if you used it as a mn?