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She was a no- show
Am I being too impatient? It is now exactly 3:50 p.m. My Social Worker was supposed to have a meeting with me at 3:00 p.m. this evening at my home, so far she is a no-show. She hasn't even called to say that she won't be coming or that she will be running a little late. I do know that something may very well have come up that she completely forgotten about our meeting this evening but that doesn't make me feel any better. I know that I am not the only one in Barbados adopting right now, but it doesn't make me feel any better. It all seems very unprofessional to me. I was so very psyched about today's meeting that I cleaned the entire house, I changed curtains, I fancied up my grandmother (who made a big fuss by the way. I am so upset right now. I was really looking forward to this. I was really excited that my process was moving along so fast and so smoothly. I know that some people might say so what if she didn't come today, that she will come another day, but I was soo looking forward to this evening. I changed alot of plans that I had for today and some very important things that I was supposed to do, I put off. Oh well!! I will go and lie down and try my best not to cry because the tears are threatening to fall. I am so sad and so very upset. I pray that she didn't forget all about me and that she is just running a little late, but come on if she was coming I figure that she would've at least called by now. I pray that I will have a happier post before the day is over saying that my lovely Social Worker was simply caught in traffic.
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Re: She was a no- show
Actually I feel you have every right to be upset. This is unprofessional to me that she would not even call to tell you she is running an hour behind, even if she is caught in an hour delay of traffic.
I am paying my agency 1200 for their home study worker to complete my home study. I am then paying the SW travel time/mileage ($50 a visit). I expect her to be professional - which includes calling me if she is running late. You better believe my agency would be hearing from me.
What would happen if she were to sit in your drive-way for an hour because you forgot or were running late? Her time is no more valuable than yours.
It is possible that a local BM needed her or was delivering or has already delivered but I would still think at the very least she or her office should call you.
The lady that was doing our home study was supposed to come to one of our post placement visits and she never showed up. I was really worried because she's really good about calling. I found out the next day her house caught on fire and half of it was burned to the ground.
You never know what might've happened. She could've just forgot or have a legitimate reason. Did you call her?
The office is already closed so I will have to wait until Monday to call her. Well I guess that since they don't have any fees they must probably have an 'I get to you when I get to you kind of attitude.' That is so very unprofessional and it might make me change my mind about dealing with them. Up until now I was very impressed with her, and how well things were progressing. I am bawling right now, I am so very upset. Thanks for the support ladies.
A very upset Lana
Lana,
I am sorry to hear she didn't show. How frustrating. Do you have # you can leave her a message at?
Amie
Oh I'm so sorry that you are upset. I really would be too. 'They' say that you shouldn't 'kill' yourself with preparing your home, cleaning and what not but I don't think any of us can help it. I can only imagine what I would feel like after preparing and then to have a no-show.
Like a PP said maybe there is a very good explanation, especially if everything has been good with her so far. So for now, until you know for sure she was just being unprofessional, try to think that she didn't show or call because maybe there is a birth mom who is having a baby and really needed your SW to be there with her. I think that would be a very good and valid reason to not call you right away. I sincerely hope her house didn't burn down or something bad didn't happen to her - but that could be possible too.
Deep breath! :-)