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Pregnant after 35
Easy pregnancy causing neurotic type stress
Hate away, because I can't even believe I am about to complain about all of this, but it's weighing on my mind.
I don't think I'm a pessimist at all, btw.
So first trimester sailed by--little nausea, no vomiting, just fatigue.
Second trimester had me plagued with a rotten upper respiratory infection and a headache x 3 weeks (god bless the invention of fioricet, and my ob prescribing it...but I digress) but overall not bad so far. I'm not showing, so I haven't had to change my wardrobe, and I'm starting to get the fabled energy boost of 2nd tri
First trimester screen/NT results were excellent with a good scan and low risk trisomy 21/18.
So why am I waiting for the badness to happen? The other shoe to drop?
My AFP results came back this week mildly elevated above normal. My OB was very reassuring, but wanted a repeat us looking at the spine for defects asap, so that's tomorrow afternoon. She also said that this elevation could indicate problems with IUGR later on, so that I would need probably more frequent u/s.
Immediately I thought, well, here is the shoe. We're going to see a big upper spine/brain lesion, or a large spina bifida defect, and we're going to have to decide what to do next. Or...I'm going to have severe IUGR (intrauterine growth restriction) with a misshapen baby. I've seen a lot of badness in my career, with not right, devastated or just the FLK's (funny looking kids), so I know that's contributing. And it always seems to be the well adjusted well planned couple who did everything right and has so much going for them that has the f*'ed up baby. The rational part of my brain says that I'm completely over-reacting. This rational part has explained things rationally and scientifically to my DH and to family members. The bat-sh*t hormonally crazed part of my brain is creating worst case scenarios left and right with planned termination of my no-head baby in the near future.
People, I am just not right. AND I did the pre-emptive self ultrasound today at work just to reassure my self, and the peanut seemed totally normal, with a normal head, spine, kicking and somersaulting all over the uterus.
Oh, and I have lost 7 lb since my first OB appointment (yes throw more hate this way), so there another neurosis to add on since I am starving my poor child.
Yes, I know I'm irrational. I would laugh at me if I was my patient, and pat me reassuringly on the head. bleah.
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Re: Easy pregnancy causing neurotic type stress
No hate here either, honey.
you think this is bad? Just wait until the baby is home in your ARMS! Then the real neurosis begins and won't end for .. oh your LIFE.
Hang in there :0)
Christine
I'am not hating you either!
I've been there from the beginning even when I was made to feel as though I was not normal by my dr because I was 35 and pregnant (whole other story). Then my neurosis set in...form poking and prodding the little guy every time he wouldn't kick, not sleeping because I was afraid I would crush him in my sleep(insanity I tell u) it doesn't end. I also have lost weight with this pregnancy i would say about 10lbs. not on purpose but I was told it's normal so I don't worry.
I don't think you are abnormal at all. Before our first u/s I was convinced it would be an empty sac and it has gone from there. DH tells me I am a pessimist but thats not it, I think I just want to be pleasantly surprised instead of horribly devastated (not that I wouldn't be anyway) but its getting better. I think I may actually bring myself to go to a store and start a registry this weekend.
And the weight, as long as you are eating healthy and not trying to avoid gaining wieght then I think your fine. I have only gained 1 pound at 16 weeks
Nope, you won't hear any complaining from me either....I have to admit that besides the many weeks of M/S, I've had the most wonderful pregnancy. Gained a few pounds, but almost everyone says I actually look like i've lost. I'm eating right, so i'm doing really good in that dept. I've poked all over the belly too when the little doesn't move, just plain scared that something bad is going to happen, poor thing, he's probably just tryng to sleep....but he does get me back at about 3am nowadays, kicking away and most likely thinking ....."I'll show her!" LOL
Otherwise no swollen ankles, not too tired, not much weight gain, no bleeding gums .....gosh! I hope i'm not jinxing myself!
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No hate here either
I guess you'll have to go to one of the tri boards for that 
I hope your u/s goes well tomorrow. I am confident that all will be fine!
Ohhhh busybea... I'm so jealous. I haven't seen my ankles in over a month. I have "cankles", and my husband has been calling me Fred Flintstone.
.. oh sure, he'll think that's a riot, until he realizes he's never getting sex again...
Christine
It's great that your pregnancy has been relatively easy so far! I hope it continues to go that way. My pregnancy went really smoothly, and I, too, was very worried at the beginning. One thing that really helped was when I started to feel the baby move (not sure if you're there yet). It was a daily reminder that she was in there squirming around and getting bigger and stronger every day.
Good luck with your ultrasound! All the best!
Christine,
LOL - yeah, i've tried the no sex thing too, unfortunately i'm the one that gives in .... i'm a sucker ....LOL
well, if it makes you feel any better, remember I still have 3+ months to go, so i'm expecting lower back pain and whatever I just jinxed myself with on my previous post ... LOL ... as long as the roids stay away, i'll be happy!
Take care of yourself and give in, it's sooo much fun! ;o)
Bea
LOL! No hating here I just totally understand.
I am a Pediatric Nurse and have also seen way too much in some ways. I can't say I've had the same fears to the same degree but I've had my own versions of neurosis. Overall I'm a pretty laid back person. But a few times I have thought of asking colleagues to do an u/s an work just to check things out but chickened out. I say that my work experiences have been good birth control and pretty much why I waited so long to decide to try to have kids. In my early 20's I was like if I could just find me a rich man I'd love to get married & bring on the kids. 15 years later I'm fairly newly married and I'm cautiously excited about my 1st and still wondering if I'm really ready (I know you never are).
Then of course my sequential screen came back 1:54 for Trisomy 18. I know that in reality that is really still good odds but with my knowledge I was unable to focus on the 53 in 54 part of that equation. So we went ahead and got an Amnio. When I was going in for the level 2 u/s and Amnio everyone kept reassuring me things would be fine. And secretly I was just hoping there'd still be a heartbeat. Thankfully the inital results from the Amnio came back fine. And we confirmed that we are having a boy.