Feeling really sad about never having a baby again

tigger1800

I guess I just needed to vent.  Its not even a vent really.  DH and I decided forever ago that we only wanted 2 kids, and I'm honestly still  very happy with that decision for every logical reason.  I've just been feeling really sad lately as I realize how old DD Is getting so quickly.  Her baby-ness is really getting less and less, and I just bought her 1st birthday dress and I am a wreck over it.  She is such a sweet little girl, and its so cool to watch her become more interactive, especially with DS, but I"m just realizing that I'm really mourning the loss of my time with an infant   I never realized I was such a newborn/baby person!

Like I said, every part of me KNOWS we're done (and I had a tubal FWIW!) and really, its not even that I want another, I guess its just the realization that this stage of my life is passing, and that I'll never have a newborn to bring home again, never nurse again, and soon will never have a little baby again.  I'm sure I'd feel this way if it was DC#2 or #20 so I'm just trying to work through it, but man, I wish there was a way to slow down time, or keep rewinding....I dont' want them to grow up!!!

 

sooosie

((HUGS))  I am right there with you and #2 is only 11 weeks old!

springmom

Me too! ?I think my two-year-in-the-making nervous break down is coming on DS's birthday.

(((hugs)))?

K-I-S-S-I-N-G

Each stage of life brings with it a new joy! It's ok to mourn the past, and although it is bittersweet to reminisce I think it makes us appreciate the present even more, because it helps us to realize that time is so fleeting. But you will go through that newborn phase again-you will have grandbabies someday!!! lol

tigger1800

Thanks guys.   It helps just to have people "get" it. I do look forward to the future, I just wish I could slow down the present!  Its not fair that they get to be babies only for a few short months but teenagers for years

 

shopgirl78

these thoughts make me sad too.  i know when we are done, i will feel the same

MrsSledge

My sister told me once that she had to stop at 2 because she thought if she had another, she wouldn't be able to stop.  We have to stop sometime with the babymaking.

That being said, I know how you feel.  I've been feeling sentimental about DD getting bigger, especially with her birthday coming up.  We've ALWAYS been one and done, but lately I've been wondering if we could make a 2nd work, and how.  Thank goodness for my IUD so I can't any hasty decisions.