OMFG - are these tantrums normal?

DevonPow

I am ready to drop DS at the nearest firestation, or just lay down and cry. DS has only been up for an hour and I am DONE.

I go in to get him this morning. He FREAKS out because he wants his dad. Fine. I say "let's go get your dad". FREAKS about that. Then when dad takes him so I can shower FREAKS about that. When I get out of the shower he starts crying and screaming "no mommy no mommy go away!!!" and sobbing. Nice.

He asked for breakfast and he has just been having one long screaming fit - some because I can;t hold him while I am slicing fruit, some about I don't know what.

Seroously, I know they tantrum at this age but is it really ALL FREAKING DAY? And so loud and dramatic? and about things that I don't know WTF they are? It has been a week of this non stop tantruming and I want to cry - is this really normal? Please tell me it won;t be like this every single day.

LittleMamaB

Miles does it too. And it's not everyday...sometimes we have bad weeks where it seems as if all he has done is throw fits, but it's usually followed by a pretty good week.

What is working for Miles right now is telling him that I'm going to count to 3 and the tantrum has to be over or he sits on his bed until he's done. I say "One" and he sobs "two, three" and he usually stops. I know it may not work for you, but I know that I have been willing to try just about anything to make them stop so I thought I'd suggest it. Good luck!

marrymemylove

normal and transient - don't worry! Have a very large coffee and full cream milk, this is not a day for low fat.

DS went through a WEEK of wanting DH for everything and having "roles" for us. Bossiness in the extreme. Mummy you go shower. No Daddy make breakfast. Mummy not shower, mummy sit there. No no Daddy make breakfast. No Mummy go back to sleep (after shower!). Daddy get dressed go to workee.

This accompanied by a symphony of tantrums.

We were so tired that after a day we mostly complied with his bossy requests to be honest. I let DH do most of the morning shift, and DS would do the reverse in the evening and want me to do everything for him. It was weird. But it stopped quite suddenly.

I wonder if he was trying to work out all our roles in his head or something. Who knows? It was a tough week, I hope you only get a day of it!

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JOEBunny

Yes, it is normal.  It is why they make them so cute, otherwise, we would all send them to an orphanage in Croatia. 

DD is 33 months and those are finally getting better.  She is very paticular.  

winery

Yes.

Totally and completely normal. 

DevonPow

I don't know if I should be relieved or depressed that this is normal.

melmax

(((((HUGS))))))   It's so tough, I've SO been there.  I am a SAHM mom, and lately, I'd been wishing I had a job outside of the home to go too.

Ava has good days and bad days, so I'm confident thta your DC maybe is just having one of those days. I think in these years of 2 and 3, they will cycle with these tantrums depending on whether they are overtired, hungry, overwhelmed, etc.  Hang in there, I'm sure tomorrow will be better. Could you get outside and go for a walk?  Sometimes the change of scenery helps.

melmax

Oh, and I was reading the OP's replies...and for us, a timeout does NOT work...she just gets more upset.  Basically when she's in a fit of temper rage, I pick her up, go sit in a chair and just hug and love her. For some reason that works for my DD. She needs the comfort during a tantrum.

Zenya

Is he tired?  We had a morning like that yesterday and it was b/c he hadn't gotten enough sleep the preceding 2 nights (had taken catnaps during the day which makes him stay up 3 hours later than usual).

 

When he gets like that I hold him really tightly and tell him stories about what we'll do that day.  Rub his back, etc.

jessicaclare

I'm just here to chime in that this is normal. DD has good days and bad days, and lately the good have outweighed the bad. We honestly just let her scream and kick. She won't usually let us hold her, and timeouts make it way worse. I think she just need to get her emotions out.

 Good luck and hang in there!