What to you do if families hates your name??

CinciBaby01

Hi Ladies,

 

I am so at a loss - my DH loves a name (Ainsley) and I really like the name (not in love though).. all of our family hates it!! One person even went so far to say that it reminds them of anal :O!  Anyway, what is it about the name that people like or don't like? Should we just ignore everyone - or is it really not a name that people like.

foundmylazybum

You should give the baby to them to raise since you cannot make any decisions on your own.?

Lyssapee

Don't tell them! It's your child. I know that you're excited, but if they hate the name for YOU'RE child it will probably hurt your feelings. IF, you keep it from them and present the baby with the name to them, they will be less likely to hate it since they have the beautiful baby to look at.

MrsDuncan

You should take any advice you get from anyone with a grain of salt (including the previous poster) ... it's your baby, your call!

cabana1

I'm usually a harsh critic of names but I personally don't see anything "wrong" with Ainsley. People may not be a fan of it but it doesn't fall into the categories of "what were her parents thinking," "sounds made up/weird," "what an awful spelling," or "way too trendy." Again, people may not like it but you are not torturing your daughter with the name Ainsley! I say use the name and ignore the family.

DarcyLongfellow

There are two ways to go on this.

If you trust your family's judgment and you value their opinions, listen to them!  They are going to be your child's family, and your child is likely going to enounter many other people who have opinions like theirs.

Or, if you don't trust your family's judgment, don't tell anyone what names you are considering.  Just announce the baby's name once you've decided (possibly even after the baby is born).  That way they will be less inclined to give you honest opinions about it.

carolinah

I love the name Ainsley. It is on my list of favorites. My DH and I are in a similar situation. We have already decided when we do get pregnant and decide on a name we will not tell his family until the baby is born. His mother seems to dislike any name that is not Jennifer or Robert and we do not plan on naming our children anything like that.

newportbride715

No name has a 100% approval rating. You have to go with what you and DH like and stop asking others' opinions, at least IRL. There is always going to be someone with a negative comment. Once the baby is here, they will like it, or at least get used to it. GL!

thenewmrsrussell

We would probably rethink the name and think about WHY our families didn't like it. If they didn't have a good enough reason in my head, we'd use it anyway. They would get used to it and change their minds. It's not their decision anyway.

BTW. I think Ainsley is an okay name

soccerwife

i have said the following:

"our baby - our name choice. you don't like, too bad - you had your turn with your children"

They shut up real quick.?

mZoe

Even though I dislike the name, it is your baby. You need to remember that.

2bejunebride06

We are not telling anyone our name choice for precisely this reason.  Everyone has an opinion, and when it comes to naming our child that we created and are going to raise for the rest of her life, I just don't want to hear it. 

FWIW, Ainsley was my number one choice for a long time but there ended up being a family member that DH wasn't so fond of with that name so we had to dump it.  When I told my mom that was one of our choices she told me how much she hated it.  That was when we decided that we were not going to tell anyone the name until after the baby is born.

mattnlinz03

I would still use the name.  That is the biggest reason that we did not tell anyone DS's name.  We both loved the name and didn't want to hear the comments from the peanut gallery before he was born.  After they can say whatever they want because it is a done deal.  In the end it is your decision and I wouldn't let them change your mind.

rebus82

I think it depends on WHY they don't like a name. Just general dislike I would ignore, but if they can come up with good reasons why a name kinda sucks in their opinion (the anal thing may be weird, but it does make you think) I would at least listen. Sometimes other people can show you things about a name that you would never consider on your own.?

That being said, we're not telling anyone our name picks, because I don't want opinions. SIL made that mistake and spend months listening to people say how much they hated her daughter's name. Once the baby is born though, people tend to shut up about it. ?

dpdw

Neither of my parents liked the name we chose for DS.  My mother went as far as to say, before DS was born, that she would just call him something else.  We still gave him the name we wanted.  I really don't care what other people think - even my own family.  I'm not sure if my parents like the name now, but since he's been born they haven't told me they don't like it.  And my mom calls DS by his name. 

Mike&Care

I say name your kid what you want.

With that said, Ainsley does remind me of anus. It also does not roll of the tongue. It almost feels like when I say it I have a big glob of peanut butter in my mouth, since it just doesn't flow well. Anyway, that's just my opinion. Name your baby anything you want!

Mipper

foundmylazybum:

You should give the baby to them to raise since you cannot make any decisions on your own.

What a stupid response to a post. She had a legit concern that deserves a real response.

That being said..... It is your child and you should name her what you want but  listening to your family's concerns is not always a bad idea. My family thinks the name we picked is hard to say with our last name. While we thought about they're concerns we loved the name enough to go with it. But if you don't LOVE it don't use it.

beckys96

We didn't care about people's 2 cents - so that is why we decided not to share our names with anyone.  Don't let them help you decide.  Pick what you and your DH love - its your child.  And when that baby is here they will love him or her not matter what name you choose.

sestock17

Did you ask your family for their opinion or did you say we are going to name our DD this?  If you asked for their opinion then you opened the door for criticism.  If their objections really bother you then pick a new name.  If you love this name and don't care that others do not, then name her Ainsley.  We are keeping names to ourselves b/c we simply do not care what other people have to say.  This is our baby, our name.

JnJHud

I agree with the pp that said there's never going to be 100% agreement on a name.

I'm really close with my mom and I value her opinion, so I'll probably share my top choices with her. Other than that, I think DH and I will be pretty selective about sharing our name choices, especially since he has a lot of siblings with a lot of opinions...

And FWIW I think it's important to understand why a reaction to a name is negative. If it's because the name isn't someone's "style," that's one thing. But if there's a real reason - it's a crazy spelling, it's a negative association, it's just asking for mean jokes, etc - maybe you should take a step back and consider their thoughts seriously.

EastCoastBride

IL's don't like the name we picked.  Oh well.  when we first told them that it was in the running, MIL was like "Oh, anything but that".  I was lke "Well, get used to it because it's a top runner".

And since that became the name, she was very vocal to my parents about not liking it.  But - tough.  SHe can hate it all she wants. Our kid = our choice. 

Seriously- I didn't give it a second thought.  We didn't tell them the names ahead of time for their approval!  More as a heads up. 

Amigosa

foundmylazybum:

You should give the baby to them to raise since you cannot make any decisions on your own.

Wow, well aren't you a special lady?

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cabana1:

I'm usually a harsh critic of names but I personally don't see anything "wrong" with Ainsley. People may not be a fan of it but it doesn't fall into the categories of "what were her parents thinking," "sounds made up/weird," "what an awful spelling," or "way too trendy." Again, people may not like it but you are not torturing your daughter with the name Ainsley! I say use the name and ignore the family.

Me too, on all counts.  Ainsley is a real (and quite pretty) name; it's spelled correctly; it's a girl's name that you're using for a girl, etc. etc. etc. 

All that = if you like it, go for it!  Your kid, not theirs. 

LMS05

Mike&Care:

I say name your kid what you want.

With that said, Ainsley does remind me of anus. It also does not roll of the tongue. It almost feels like when I say it I have a big glob of peanut butter in my mouth, since it just doesn't flow well.?

Completely agree!! My friends and I were talking about names and I brought it up, even though I hate this name. Everyone of them hated it too. It's just not a pretty name. ?

DR&RN04

Don't tell them the name ahead of time.  Simply introduce your child when he/she is born.  If they hate it, too bad.  It isn't their decision to make. 

janbrady

Ha ha! Our top pick is Ainsley right now and DH is totally decided and I'm a little on the fence. Most people either say it's pretty, 'different' , or they've never heard of it before (really?!). Once I started researching I've noticed people on Baby Name sites saying it has the 'anal' sound. Now I can't get that out of my head, but I still like Ainsley.

My mom actually was concerned because she didn't think it was easy to spell. Well my mom named be Alison (with one l), and obviously I've had to spell that my entire life so I don't really see that as a concern.

 

Soon2BMrsN

This is exactly why we don't plan to tell anyone our name until after he's born.  People have a lot harder time criticizing a name after it's already been given, IMO.  Just ignore people... it's your baby, so it's your choice.

kristen230

use it! Its pretty. We will not be telling anyone what the name is next time around. ?GL!

MrsTotty

You tell them "it's your and DH's choice and it's not up for debate, and you didn't ask for an opinion ... and BTW your name isn't my favorite either but I wouldn't say that to your (our your mother's) face, it's called MANNERS."

... but thats just me 

vrich

I really do like the name.  A friend named her daughter Ainsley and she is just the sweetest cutest thing!

mulanuva

carolinah:

I love the name Ainsley. It is on my list of favorites. My DH and I are in a similar situation. We have already decided when we do get pregnant and decide on a name we will not tell his family until the baby is born. His mother seems to dislike any name that is not Jennifer or Robert and we do not plan on naming our children anything like that.

Ditto.  My MIL is very vocal about liking traditional names and making fun of non-traditional names, so I'm going to be cautious about telling her because I definitely don't like traditional names.