I'm going back to work but emotionally not ready.

mama'sboy

I'm a new mother of a beautiful 3-month old baby boy. I'm very attached to him and I'm not quite ready to go back to work but I have to go back in a few days. What can I do to make the transition of spending every minute with him to not seeing him all day and only spending a couple hours with him after coming home from work?

FutureMrsLynch

I dont have any suggestions because I am in the same boat you are...  I cant go back.  Even right now, when I think about it I know I'm not going back.   Ok well I probably am but I really really really dont want to.  As soon as my dh gets a job I am going to quit.  I cant even think about being away from my ds, its too hard, and its not fair.     I'm sad that I have to go back... I'm sorry you have to go back too. 

cwhip77

It might be corny, but I often look at pictures of my baby and videos of her I have posted on my blog when I'm at work.  It helped a lot especially in the beginning.  For me personally it's actually been good for me to work, I feel like it makes me more appreciative of the time I have with her, and it's been good for me to have an outlet and social interaction with adults.  I'm not sure I could be a full time SAHM, I need that change of pace and environment, but that's just me.

I'm sure it's going to be really difficult transitioning, but hang in there and cuddle him all the more when you see him. 

stacylu

I agree with Deb - take lots of pictures. I have a dig. pic frame at my desk and the first 2 weeks I spent a LOT of time watching that. (oops)

Try and get as comfortable as you can with your DCP or whomever is watching DS. Meet them if you haven't, find out about their family, get comfy with them and the idea that they are with your child during the day. Try and think of work as a good thing instead of bad and enjoy the time that you do get with him.

AnnetteWalker

I agree have lots of pics of  your little guy around your desk. I call my DH in the morning after I am at work but before he has taken DS to daycare to see how the morning is going for them. And just know that in a few weeks it does get easier and more routine. Now we have a good schedule and it just works out fine. I really enjoy my home time with DS but I also like my at work time too.

livy91606

I dont want to go back either.  I seriously cry about it daily now.  She will be in daycare from 8am-4pm, and all I can think about is that's ALL day long!

My mom keeps telling me that I will have had 3 months home with her and that's more then a lot of other mommys get.  Which is true, so I'm thankful for that.

And like others have said here, it will be nice to have interactions with other adults again.  And I hear the work day goes quickly once you get back because you are so busy.

 It just isn't fair!