Crib ettiquette

mmbench

Let's say your ILs buy your baby's crib.  Do you need to ask their permission to sell it.

 My ILs bought the cribs.  My parents also offered, but ILs are high-maintenance, so we let them do it rather than rock the boat.  They were only $200 a piece.

We're done and shopping for twin beds (girls are  3 1/2).  I said something MIL about selling the cribs, and she freaked.  They want to "store" them for us.  Plus they also have 2 at their house already.  So she's going to save 4 cribs for no good reason (we're done and both only children).  She says we shouldn't sell them without their permission.  I say they were a gift (with no strings), and we could use the $ toward the beds.

Jen2124

It would never cross my mind to "ask". That is nuts!

Zenya

My parents bought our crib.  I wouldn't even think to ask them if I wanted to sell it.  Why do they need 4 cribs?  That is so weird.

jessicaclare

I was under the impression that a gift is a gift, free and clear. If she was buying them and "lending" them to you, that should have been made clear at the time.

My dad bought our crib and he has no sense of ownership over it. It was a gift. 

Marce921

I would consider them yours, to do with as you please! I wouldn't think to ask and I'd have to say something to her as to how insane storing 4 cribs for no reason is. Tell her she's welcome to save the two she has, but that you want to sell yours and use the money for their big girl beds. She needs to get over it.

amiamish

Zenya:

My parents bought our crib.  I wouldn't even think to ask them if I wanted to sell it.  Why do they need 4 cribs?  That is so weird.

Ditto- but it was my MIL that bought DS's... that's so odd that she wants to hold on to them.

Did you tell her you need to sell them in order to afford toddler beds?

marrymemylove

Assuming they weren't heirlooms or something she's nuts.?

But hey, why not ask her to chip in for the beds? Since she's taking part of your asset.

Wow.?

MrsSledge

I would ask.  Not "permission", but as if they knew of anyone.  I was going to sell my travel system that my dad bought, but told him I was looking to get rid of it and asked if he knew of anyone who could use it.  We ended up giving it to my dad's neighbor for an employee of his.

DH's brother gave us a kitchen table when we first moved in together.  When it was time to get rid of it, I asked DH to call his brother to see if he wanted it, but he refused.  Said it was a gift and ours to do with as we wanted.