Dad to be does not agree!

YoungNLuv

ok so the daddy to be and i are not agreeing on a baby name if its a boy; he wants to keep the tradition in his family and name him after his father and him! Which would make my soon to be possible little man a 3rd. I know its something he feels strongly about but ive never been big in tradition myself and just imagined he would go for something more original. So I need some advice on how to handle this? Thanks!

lbap

Maybe you could still keep the same first name, but maybe since your DH is choosing the first name, you could pick the middle name and then you can call him by his middle name (and then you are still honoring your DH and his father, but you are having some input into the name as well and giving your son his own identity as well).

Erin Mary Ackerman

How much of a tradition is it if your LO will only be the 3rd?  And are you not married? If you are not, then make sure you say you want your LO to have your last name.   Bet he'll change his tune right quick on the first name...

star678

If I was not married to the father of my child I don't think I would honor that tradition if I didn't want to.

jcsntms06

I like using daddy's first name as the baby's middle name. You could suggest that. I'm not a huge fan of jr's at all. We have way to many James' in my family and it gets really confusing. My brother who is 20 is still being called Little Jimmy. Annoying as hell. Although I don't call him that.

JillAly

You could use the same initials as the dad to be and grndfather but change the names.  Then you could have some input into the name to make it more original and the dad to be could carry the tradition of initials - even if not exactly the same name.

jennings235

Honestly, I think if a family tradition like that is important to him, and he wants to carry it on then you should.  Or maybe you can modify it a little to fit you both better.  But, you I dont think you should throw out his family tradition because you dont like it. 

With DS it was DH's family tradition to give sons their dads name as the middle name.  DH didnt like that option so we used his grandfathers name. 

Sept1799

I agree with you, I would not want my son to be the third. I think they should be different. Maybe you could find a name you both like. I would stand your ground and say that you want a different name. This is half your baby too. You both need to agree.

Puckchick07

I'm all for children having their individual names. Stand your ground, maybe use the name as a middle name.

I just don't get the "tradition" of naming babies after yourself. It's egotistical.

newportbride715

It's all about compromise. How does he feel about his and his Dad's name as the baby's mn? Also, do you even know the sex yet? Maybe just try to hold off until you know. You may be arguing for nothing.

LMS05

If it's your husband I really think you need to honor his wishes because it obviously is very, very important to him. I think he may become bitter if you don't and I would understand him feeling like that.

If it's not your husband I think you should name him the 3rd, but aren't obligated to.?

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JnJHud

I agree with a lot of the pps. I respect and appreciate honoring family traditions; however, I personally have never been a giant fan of juniors, III, etc.

The name Trey was tossed around the other day as a commonly used nn for so-and-so-the-third (kwim?). What do you think about that? Could the be a compromise?

 

bwilkerson0220

Or if the baby is a III you could call him Tres (spanish for 3) or Tripp (as in triple). Then you are getting a name that is not the same to call him, but you are carrying on a tradition that is important to your husband (and his family) And I think Tres & Tripp or Trey like the previous poster suggested are all cute.

Tim and Sara

My dad and brothers names are switched. Maybe you could try that. My dad is Michael Thomas and my brother is Thomas Michael.

Corinneallyson

Let him be the third, and call him Trey. That's fun and semi-different.

Mitzie

I just said no. We've had problems in the past because DH is a Jr. and I have no intention of continuing this line of annoyance.

Reasoning:

1) My culture does not name babies after living people

2) Credit, mail, everything mixups

3) "Little Joseph" is 6'1 when he's 16. You have to call your husband, your FIL, and your child by all different names.

4)  I want my baby to be his own person and he deserves his own name.

5) DH already got to pick the baby's last name. I'm carrying and birthing the child. I should get to pick the first name.