Worry too much!

matt and lori

Hi,  I am new to the Bump today.  I am 38 and 8 weeks pregnant.  I have my first OBGYN in two days - it's been torture waiting!  I just find myself feeling so nervous that something will go wrong!  Do other women go through this?  I have no reason to think anything will go wrong (no previous pregnancies, no health issues) but "they" do say that being over 35 increases the risk.  I have lots of "pregnancy symptoms" which everyone keeps telling me is a good sign.  Anyone have any thoughts or advice on how to keep myself sane? 

robynlesley

Hi Lori!

Congratulations and welcome!! I, too, am 38?for another 4 weeks ?and I found the wait to see my OB pure torture, too! I was lucky in that my office sees patients from week 6 on, so my first visit was at 6w4d. And I definitely was worried something was wrong due to my age, but as my pregnancy has progressed that worry has lessened.

As for keeping sane the next two days... no clue! I'm trying not to overly anticipate my BIG ultrasound, which isn't until next Friday. LOL!

I'm sure everything will go splendidly at your 1st visit. Just be prepared for a pap smear, to pee in a cup (happens at every visit), and have vials of blood drawn. Plus they'll ask a lot of questions about family history (yours and your husband's) and health issues.

Congrats,

Robyn

matt and lori

Thanks!  Good luck on yours next week - looks like you're well into your 2nd trimester, so that must be reassuring.  Are you going to find out the sex?  Next Friday must feel forever away! 

Did you recently get married?  I noticed the veil on your picture...  I was married last May.    

 

robynlesley

I got married last June. So I've been keeping the wedding pic as my avatar. I figure until my first anniversary, I'm a newlywed and can keep the pic with the veil.

I hope to find out the baby's sex but I know sometimes babies don't cooperate. Hoping mine will! And, yeah, it's reassuring to be in my 2nd trimester but it will be even MORE reassuring once I feel the baby move.

Again, welcome to our nice little board!

stever

Welcome and congrats! I recommend ice cream to help with the sanity.

ChristineNYC

Huge congrats!

Sanity .... yeah, you can pretty much forget about that for the next 7 (8) mos.     It's gone.    Don't make yourself crazy trying to be sane, but just try to roll with it and ENJOY the pregnancy!

Are there more risks doing this over 35?   So they tell us.   But we've got loads of testing (non-invasive these days, more often than not) that keep us right on top of all the development, and though I wouldn't say keeps us sane?   I'd say it keeps us calm.... ER.  

Happy and healthy 9 mos to you!

Christine

iluvtom

My OB feels 38 is so not old. She is seeing many into their early 40's with their first baby. I am 38 too and I have been a worry wart- Despie good NT results I had my amnio yesterdy because I have arthritis and over the years have taken alot of meds, I wanted to make sure everything was ok with the baby. GL to you and I hope your appt. goes well.

jennandjt

Welcome to you!!  What fantastic news!!  I turned 39 in January and this is also my first.  I've had 2 prior losses, but obviously they had nothing to do with age as it was before my 35th bday!!  I'm just nearing the end of my first tri and I'm still as nervous as I was when we first found out.  The women on these boards help keep me from the padded room and it's a nice reasurring place to be if you have questions or anxieties, although I wouldn't really recommend 1st tri....a little snarky.  I hope you have a healthy and happy 9 months and I look forward to celebrating all the steps with ya!!

ml0904

Hi I am 42 and having my first. I was a mess waiting for that first appointment, DH was supportive but couldn't believe how freaked out I was. Everyone is right, you will not have sanity for awhile because now your waiting for this and then it will be the next appointment or ultrasound. You don't stop freaking out, just the reason changes. I can't believe I have 5 more weeks till our big ultrasound to see what we are having. I am convinced I will never make it.

Congrats and really do try to enjoy it!

NewMrs07

It's normal to worry, I'm 38 too and I didn't relax until I was out of the first trimester, and I'm still not 100% relaxed. I can't sleep well the night before my prenatal appointments and Monday the doctor didn't find the heartbeat right away and I almost had a heart attack! She found it though, nice and strong (knock on wood).

I finally went to BRU and started a baby registry this week. We bought the crib and changing table on Sunday b/c there was a good sale going on. Now with that on the way I feel like I can start to enjoy my pregnancy a little more and think about nursery decor. That will keep me busy. I'm still nervous though, lol, I think I will be until that baby comes out healthy and with all 10 fingers/toes.

Try not to worry, once you see/hear the h/b you'll feel better. Good luck and H&H 9 months!!!

kalisun

i'm 41 with my first and freaked out too.  trying to relax and enjoy.  all the tests so far are perfect so i'm just gonna have some ice cream and keep the fingers crossed!!  good luck to you!!

matt and lori

Thanks everyone!  It is reassuring just even to know I'm not the only one feeling like I'm going to go insane!  And the ice cream advice was excellent.  I came home from the store last night and DH said, "UH-OH - the cravings have started huh?"  lol   My appointment is later this morning.  Hopefully I will get to hear a heartbeat.  They said I might or might not, since I'm only 8 1/2 weeks. 

 

Thanks again!

trixiebelden

I don't think I ever relaxed when I was pregnant with my first. I always found something to worry about.  The good news is that you don't have the time or energy to worry as much when you are pregnant with your second one,

My only advice is to "try" to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. 

matt and lori

Just testing to see if the baby ticker shows up on my post now!