Spreading the news?

BrideBuddies

Ok, tricky subject that I'll probably also post over on the Knot.

My husband and I will likely be attending a wedding this June for some friends we see about once a year.  My husband and the groom are kind of adversaries... but they're civil to each other.  They just don't really like each other.   But we're all part of a large circle of friends who live all around the country.

So, at this wedding, I should be about 4 months pregnant.  It will come as a huge surprise to all of our friends since most figured we would not be having kids at all.  Plus, one couple has tried and tried to conceive without success.  I know she'll be thrilled for us... but probably sad a little, too.

Should I tell some of our friends (and the bride and groom) beforehand?  I certainly don't want to walk into the wedding and have them figure out I'm pregnant and steal the attention away from the bride and groom.  But am I being too much of an attention whore anyway by even bringing it up early? 

Your thoughts, please.  It's actually my husband who's a little worried about how this should go down without making us look like huge attention whores.

NewMrs07

I don't think you would steal the attention away, but some people might figure it out if you're showing a bit and not drinking. Just tell those you're comfortable sharing it with but don't hold back just for the bride's sake, it's two different things!

Sunny70

I would tell before, at around 12 -13 weeks, then yours is not the "new" news either, and maybe tell the bride first. That way you are not making a show of not telling either.

jetgrrrl

I would just make your announcement around 12 to 13 weeks when you would be teling people, as PP suggests. It puts some time between the announcement and the wedding. I mean, you may not really be showing but it would be hard to keep the secret at that point.

 

BrideBuddies

Thanks ladies.