Doing the work of a MOH without the title? WWYD?

marrymemylove

I've basically been asked to do this.

My friend is engaged as of end of January. She is great and she was one of my friends who I really fitted back in with as soon as we came back from overseas. I was always planning to be as involved as she wanted in planning.

Anyway, she has mostly decided not to have a bridal party, or at most to have a best man. She has not thought about who will be witnesses but it could be their parents.

She wants:

a pretty big wedding (at 120 the biggest wedding of any of my friends)

Froufrou dress and flowers and all that jazz

Garden ceremony and reception in pretty posh spot

A band

No bridesmaids

?

She says she just doesn't want to pick colours and she will get into trouble picking bridesmaids (she's moved around a lot and has friends in many cities).

?I totally understand that. And I am flattered she asked me to be her right hand girl, and to organize the hens night and help with the invites and planning.

?Just kind of bummed I don't get a pretty dress :-) Yeah I know, most bridesmaids dresses are crap, but this girl has style, she surely wouldn't choose one of those.

I've been to 1 other wedding where there were no bridesmaids and it looked kind of weird. But I can't say that or she'll think I'm angling. BTW *that* bride just did not want any other woman in the bridal party and said so. She said "I want to be the only beautiful woman in a dress surrounded by men in suits".

OKOK just a bit of a whinge... back to finding her Asian-but-not-too-Asian accessories... obviously I've already said yes.

cbidt*sgirl

i would help out the friend and be flattered that she wanted my input and help...you don't do it for the dress or the title.  you do it because you love your friend. 

marrymemylove

Oh obviously yes... that's why I said yes and as I said I kind of thought she might have cousins or something who she would pick anyway (and in Australia BPs tend to be VERY small, 3 is the biggest I've ever seen).

?Still... I think I can quietly have a vent about not getting the dress don't you? :-)

hopefulmom

auntie...get over yourself...and while you're at it...pat yourself on the back why don't ya.

MMML...I would feel the same way if I were in your place.  IMO...I think weddings without bridesmaids look weird and lopsided and make the bride look like she has no friends.