Anyone go to appt's alone?

PK2

My doctor has very limited office hours and my husband works in a high school so he can't come with me to my AM appointments. Anyone else go alone? I have my first official appointment next week (I found outI was pregnant during my annual exam in January.) I can ask my sister or MIL but I don't really mind going alone that much.

Love Sugar Sweet Minxy

I will probably go alone to some of mine.  DH probably won't be able to miss that much work.

McKenna81

Yep, I don't mind going alone. That having been said, DH is coming to the NT scan tomorrow -- I know he'll get a huge kick out of it.

MrsBro6116

I do. My husband is in construction so if he takes time off its unpaid. He comes to u/s but the month appts he doesn't bother to.

Doesn't bother me, I'm in and out of there in like 15mins anyways...

LLarson

my husband will just come to the u/s this time.  we have 2 kids and i stay home with them and my niece and nephew so he meets me at the office and hangs out with the kids in the car or takes them for a happy meal while i'm at the appointment.  wish he could be there but it works good the way it is. 

kchoi

yup. ?my doc's office doesn't allow kids so dh has to stay at home with my son. ?they do allow your children to come for the big ultrasound so that will probably be the one time dh comes along.

BlairWaldorf

I'll go alone to the ones that don't involve an ultrasound.

DH doesn't need to be there while I pee in a cup & they weigh me.

borc0080

I've gone alone once for blood work, otherwise DH has come with each time. However, now I think he'll start only coming for u/s visits or if there's an issue. 

I think if you're comfortable going alone, that's the important thing.

Lizmara

Too bad we don't live closer =( We could do ours together!

My husband teaches at a high school and coaches football, which has already started conditioning. He doesn't want to tell them he can't make events because of the pregnancy yet. I told him to hold of and wait until the appt with the OB. I'm doing my early ultrasounds solo and will even be going by myself next week, when we're hoping to see a heartbeat.

My family lives up North but I honestly don't mind going alone. My husband is so supportive when we're together. I'm saving his free time and miss work for the bigger appointments. 

 

 

scullyhoyy

I go to mine alone, it's not really a big deal. I also went to all of mine alone with #1 also.

Jennyinheaven

BlairWaldorf:

I'll go alone to the ones that don't involve an ultrasound.

DH doesn't need to be there while I pee in a cup & they weigh me.

ditto, what she said

cedens

i go alone to the majority of my appts! dh owns a restaurant and it is difficult for him to get away~ he came to the NT scan and i will bring him next week to hear the hearbeat (which he missed last time)~ and he will be going with me for the anatomy scan~ all the big ones...

as for the monthly appts- it's really not necessary for him to go along- the appts become very quick and monotonous (pee in cup, weight you, check bp, any questions? ok see you next month)-- haha so no need for him to waste his days off (save them for when the baby arrives!)

you may want to ask him ahead of time though what his family history is like regarding genetics- my doc did a brief question and answer sitting before the appt to screen for any genetic/inherited things like diabetes, defects, learning disabilities, heart problems, etc. (so if you are not aware of them already, then just double check with your dh before you go!)

GL and no worries! you will do fine going alone! many ppl go alone all the time!

NOVAMommy5

I would hate for DH to miss any ultrasounds, (we had a u/s at our first appt for DD and for this new baby) but for general appointments I've never had him there. For us, the NT and the anatomy "big" u/s have more flexible timing, because it's at a seperate facility, (I'm not sure if it's this way for everyone) so we're able to work it better into DH's schedule.

AMYfromKY

I go to mine alone.  DH will come to the NT scan and our big u/s, but that's probably it.  He is allowed to take off work, but I just don't see why he needs to.  Oh, he also went to my first one because it was my first day of m/s and I thought I was going to crash the car if he didn't.  Now when I look back on it, I was just being a baby.

Lizard2022

I just went to an appointment today alone.  I was totally OK with it.  DH came to the first one b/c I knew we were getting an ultrasound.  Most of the pg women I see in the waiting room are alone.  Unless something big is happening, DH doesn't need to see me pee in a cup, get weighed in and see a Dr. for 5 minutes. 

I would actually feel silly and really co-dependent if DH came to all of my appointments with me.

Squishycheeks

I don't mind going alone, the majority of mine have just been peeing in a cup and weighing in. DH came with me to one, and will be there at my next for the big u/s, but I expect to be by myself after that.

PK2

Thanks Ladies! Now I wouldn't feel so bad when I see all these other couples in the waiting room. You gotta do what ya gotta do!

FlashsGirl

This is my 2nd, but my husband really only came once to meet the doctor and once for the big U/S last time.  He plans to come for the big U/S this time.  I feel bad he misses out, but would rather he not be stressed about leaving work.

anakin

I highly recommend that you have someone at your 1st u/s, which for most people is between 8-10 weeks.  And I would highly recommend this person be your husband, but at the very least someone.

I went to a lot of my appointments alone, and it didn't/doesn't bother me.  But with my last pg they found I had a blighted ovum at the 1st u/s.  (for those who don't know that means they saw the sac but there was no baby).  I was there alone.  I then had to drive myself home.  Then I had to tell DH what had happened.  It was the worst day of my life.

I hope that this never happens to anyone, and the chances are small, but I still recommend that you have someone with you just in case.  And having someone to see the baby with you the first time is a wonderful thing.

This time we have made certain that DH will go with me to this appointment.  Even if he goes to nothing else but the big u/s.

missbryn

I always go alone b/c DH travels ALL the time. I tried to schedule the N/T for when he could come (he even changed his travel plans so he could be there) but the day before the dr called and had to reschedule so it ended up he couldn't come. I'd try hard to have him there for the ultrasounds - not for you, but for him. Seeing our baby waving its arms around was something I'll never forget, and I'm sad he didn't get that connection with the baby (and pissed at the stupid dr office for chaning us last minute). I don't feel the need to have anyone else with me.

*MrsK*

I went alone to my first appointment. DH really wanted to go, even though they didn't do anything exciting then. I had to book the appointment 4 weeks out and DH said he was going to tell his boss he would need to go in late that day. He kept forgetting and I kept reminding him. Until he got upset at the continued "nagging" so I stopped and trusted him to remember on his own. Guess what? he forgot. And his boss booked him a flight the morning of the appointment. Men! Now we laugh about it but I remind him that from now on the "nagging" will continue until he does something about it. lol. We have our first "real" appointment with the actual doctor on Monday, and he requested the morning off for it a few weeks ago and it has already been approved.

Surprisingly, they told DH, whatever time he needs off for appointments or whatever to let them know and they will work around it. They were more accomodating than I thought they would be. And DH is salary, so if all he does is go in to work late once a month or whatever, it won't affect his paycheck which is nice.

sam19

The only appointments H will go to is the big U/S and hopefully the one on March 9th to hear the heartbeat for the first time.

Mrs.RMama

I might go alone tomorrow.