Had first doc appt; Feeling anxious

jump4jen

Had appointment last nigt. DH came with me and had planned to stay in room while I had first u/s. I was very nervous and excited b/c I've had this general sensation of "is it really in there?" since we found out we were pregnant.

As soon as DH saw "the wand" he said, "I can't do this. I can't watch another man violate you with that nightclub." I scowled and gave him a death stare. He started hopping around the room and babbling that it was not right for him to be there and if it was the other way around and some woman was touching his balls and man probe that I would want to leave. My response was,"If it was important to your health that I be present, of course I would stay. I do not have a problem with a doctor examining you." He stopped hopping and said, "Liar," and left. Sigh.

 So doc comes in and jellies up the probe and starts asking me questions. I tell him my LMP but that my cycles are usually 30 days. His checks his computer and says that my due date should be October 14.

So he probes me and I finally see a little sac and heartbeat (happy sigh). Then he says baby is only measuring 6w3d. Hmmmm. "What does that mean?" He responds that for my due date baby should be at 6w 6d. I ask if I should have cause for concern and he says no (but of course I'm concerned).

Then I get dressed and he shoos DH and I into office for questions. Now I am a very organized, anal-retentive, Type-A individual, but as soon as I went into that office my head started spinning and swimming and I didn't pull out my list of questions, I only asked half of what I wanted to ask, DH kept talking, doctor was very general, and I felt lost. I left and felt deflated. They scheduled another u/s in two weeks to remeausre baby.

So now I'm anxious again and irritated with myself that I let myself get steam-rolled. I know doctors are sometimes impervious to the fears and angst of new mothers, but I just felt let-down by the whole situation. Thanks for letting me vent.

hopingforalittleone

Not to make this worse, but your husband sounds really immature.  How is he going to handle you giving birth? I understand being squeamish and feeling uncomfortable, but saying another man was violating you?  Give me a break.

I am sure that incident set you off.  I have been in similar situations where I have a million questions prepared and ask none, it stinks.  Make a written list so next time, in 2 weeks, you can get everything answered.  Talk to your dh, if he is going to do that every time, leave him home.. hopefully he will grow up and be a bit more mature about this whole thing and understand how you guys are in this together.

MrsACT1

3 days really isn't reason for concern.  My doctor said that if I am measuring within week of where I should be they aren't concerned.  Don't worry and stress yourself out, I am sure the baby is fine.

kristyn&ken

First things first, tell your husband to grow the F up. That's ridiculous. Time to be a man if you plan to be a dad. I'm honestly having difficulty getting past that to address your other questions.

If I were you I'd get your list and call the office to ask the questions you want answered.

lindagarza_@hotmail.com

First off, Congratulations on seeing a heartbeat!

Second, you're DH is a bit of a butthead (yes, I said butthead) for not staying with you during the exam.

Third, being 6w3d vs whatever you thought you were just means that you conceived a few days later.

I'm sure everything's fine and I wish you luck.  And tell your DH to grow up!

TeamTejeda

I cant lie, I snickered a bit when I saw what he said...  Men are morons a lot of times. My MR WONDERFUL was pissed they kicked him out for the vag probing part of the u/s. lol.

Ppl can say its immature but some ppl handle shiit diff than others. Its all relatively new to him. Have an ADULT talk with him about it and see where it takes you. Hopefully next time he will man up.. lol.

and congrats.. dont stress.   (((the drs generally give you reasons to stress when they feel you need to, this is NOT one of those times)))

EmuJane

My measurements are way more off than yours and the doctor isn't concerned at all, so try not to worry (I know it's hard). As for your DH, I agree with most of the others that he needs to grow up. There is nothing sexual about the ultrasound wand, and I don't know about your doctor, but mine barely glanced down there as he inserted it.  How is he going to handle half the hospital seeing you spread out when you give birth?

jump4jen

Yeah, very irritated with DH right now. And the weird thing was he was totally excited to go and be there and then just had a meltdown once we were in the room. Maybe he's just nervous.

 And thank you for the comments about the measurements. That makes me feel better. I think DH will be getting a sit-down tonight so we can talk this out....(However I cannot promise I will be calm or rational)

Mrs.Ivy

Take it from an ultrasound tech, 3 days off means nothing.  It is technical meaning where he put the callipers to measure the baby could be just a little off and that would switch the date.  I bet if you had 2 scans in the same day by 2 different people they would both give you a different date!