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DH went back to work today..need some advice

so it was great that he got 2 weeks off work to be at home with me and DD but today is his first day back at work and im an emotional wreck..its not like i havent cryed a few times since she was born but today all i can do is cry and all she has done is cry so we have just been sitting on the couch all day crying together.

i dont think im depressed, just really sad and emotional, but i am worried anybody else going through this or have advice

Re: DH went back to work today..need some advice

  • Have you been feeling alright otherwise prior today? I definitely had a bad case of the baby blues for about the first 3-4 weeks and different things would trigger my crying. I think we have all been there.
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  • i promise it does get easier. ?but if you need to talk to someone i would recommend calling your OB. ?

    you say you don't think you are depressed but that you are sad and emotional. ?i am not sure i understand the difference.?

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  • I went through the same thing.  It will get better. You and your dd will figure things out together.  Totally normal to feel what you are feeling.  I was so nervous especially since I was so dependent on DH in the first 2 weeks cause I had a c/s.  Hang in there!
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  • Wow, you're lucky you got two weeks with him.  My DH went back to work the same day we got back from the hospital.  I'm lucky that my mom and sis come by each day to spend some time with me and cook (!!!) but I've pretty much taken care of our baby girl alone since we came home.  DH also works long hours so he's gone from 9am-9pm.
  • It's absolutely normal to feel that way. I think most of us have been there. I was a total wreck the first couple days I was alone with DD too. Its just so much easier to have another set of hands to help, and its overwhelming when you are all of a sudden 100% responsible for your tiny little person for 80% of the day.

    The good news is that it gets SO much better as time goes on. You will get to know your LO better and actually have fun being home with them.

    Don't worry. You can do this. If you really feel like you cant then you should ask a friend or family member to come hang out a couple hours a day with you... but seriously, you can do this. =)

    Oh, and I still have some baby blues and don't feel like its depression. Who knows if there is a difference... I think I'm okay because its rare and fleeting, but if you feel like its constant you should call your doc. 

    HTH. Hang in there!! 

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  • imageAngieandTony:
    I went through the same thing.  It will get better. You and your dd will figure things out together.  Totally normal to feel what you are feeling.  I was so nervous especially since I was so dependent on DH in the first 2 weeks cause I had a c/s.  Hang in there!

    Ditto exactly!  The first day (and really, the first few weeks) w/o DH were HARD!  Then, you start to really figure things (and each other) out.

    Good luck!  This is totally normal, but if it continues past a few more weeks, call your doc.

  • thanks everybody, its just nice to know that im not alone or the only one who has gone through this. i still can't wait until this weekend though!
  • I try to get out of the house everyday.  my ds loves the car so he's pretty portable.  and it gives me something to look forward to.  But it's really a one day at a time struggle for me too.  But know that in no time, you two will be in a routine and all this will just be a memory!  gl!
  • It's tough. My husband went back after 2 weeks and it was hard. My daughter is colic too which makes it so hard.  My bmom and I spend some days during the week together.  This helps a lot. Do u have someone that can come stop by to help u?
  • I cried every day for about 7 days straight.  I would recommend getting out of the house for a bit when your DH comes home.  Also, my mom and sister have taken some days off with me and hung out - that helped a whole lot.  Try to stay busy, cleaning, and doing things around the house.....I've taken my LO to some places for short times just to get out of the house.  It's the only way I can stay sane. It will get better though. Hang in there.
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