Where to start?

MrsJuneHawk

Hello ladies.  This is my first post here so please bear with me!

My husband and I are thinking about adopting in a couple of years but we have absolutely NO idea where to begin.  We are completely ignorant of the process, the possibilities, timelines, etc. I know this is a lot to ask but could you guys perhaps point us in the right direction?  What is the best way to go, domestic or international?  Pros and cons of each?  Timelines for each?  Again, I know I'm asking a lot but we have no idea where to even look.  TiA!

Dr.Loretta

Get a copy of Adoption for Dummies or one of the other beginner adoption books. They're great reads, and they'll help you decide which direction you want to go and how to go about informing yourself.

There is no "best" way to go. Some of us really want to do domestic, others are really into international, others have found their place is with foster/adopt. You'll need to weigh each of them and see where you net out.

Good luck, and feel free to come ask a lot of questions. it's a great group here.

crystalpopcorn

I just want to tell you that your baby is absolutely ADORABLE. ?

Ditto what PPs said about reading the adoption books. ?This board is another great resource. ?You should really research all adoption routes to find the one you are most comfortable with. Even if you are initially leaning one way over the other, make sure you look into all options. ?Check out adoption.com and adoption.org as well. ?

Good luck!?

Ranita

Fredalina really laid things out well and I agree with what the pp said about the books and about finding the best fit for your family.  It's also key to look beyond you and your DH to his and your parents etc 'if' you chose IA as an option.  Many countries work quickly with families who have heritage.  My DH is Colombian and we are adopting from an orphange there because we wanted to bring his culture and heritage home and maintain the language etc for the child who may otherwise either not be adopted or be adopted by someone without understanding of his or her cultural identity.  that being said, we were also drawn to the program over DIA because not only will it be likely to be a quicker placement but also MUCH cheaper because in country fees are almost nil and we have family to stay with.

I think when you look into philosophies, one thing to keep in mind to help you find the best fit for your family is that there are risks and sacrifices associated with ANY adoption - that term is subjective of course, and it's important for you and your DH to decide which sacrifices are ok with you and which factors are actually pros to you that may be cons to someone else.

I hope that helps somewhat and by all means, stick around and ask whatever you like...we're all here to support one another.

MrsJuneHawk

Thank you