soo pissed!

usafwife3

ok, so, u know that in life, once you have a baby, there will be people who tell you what to do....what you are doing wrong...and what not to do. it comes with the territory. little old ladies at the grocery store, some woman going down the aisle at walmart...etc. but tonight, i got super pissed.

ok, not to offend anyone, but i dont like cigarette smoke. especially around my daughter. So we have made it a rule since before she was born that if you smoke you either shower before holding the baby, or change your shirt so that the chemicals from the cigarettes arent going into my little cc's lungs when you hold her. Everyone we know that smokes has known the rule since before the baby was born. Including my BIL & MIL.

well tonight we went over to a friends house. both of them smoke, but they dont in their house so its not that big of a deal. well her dh held the baby for the first time tonight, and after i handed her over, i remembered that he had gone out to smoke in his jacket. considering it was my own error, i wasnt going to steal her back all quick and get mad. so all i said was, "i think u smoked in that jacket. its ok though this time." and hes like "it doesnt really matter. most lung cancer is caused by polution not smoke"

ok, FIRST OFF, its my damn rule - so obviously it f'ing matters to me! Second, its not the damn smoke idiot, its the chemicals that are left. and third, it doesnt matter why its my rule in the first place, the point is that shes MY child and therefore MY rules apply! dude, it took all of my being not to f'ing yell at him.

if i said that my daughter doesnt wear pink, then my daughter doesnt wear pink. its my child, i will raise her the way that I want to raise her, and take the advice i choose to take. maybe im crazy but ****, dont u dare tell me how to raise my kids and what doesnt f'ing matter!!! grrrr

thanks for letting me vent!!

Mrs.McLovin

Your friend is an idiot in denial.

J+O

99% of DH's family members smoke so I know how frustrating it is. ?Although my MIL does not smoke when DS is at her house, after we get home I have to wash EVERYTHING of DS b/c it reeks of smoke. ?And he gets a bath first thing.

I don't have the rule about changing clothes, but I understand why some do & if I smoked I would agree to follow the rule.

Sometimes I think about telling my MIL about how DS smells like a giant cigarette after we leave her house... maybe it would motivate her to quit.

So yes, I understand your frustration!

usafwife3

J+O:

99% of DH's family members smoke so I know how frustrating it is.  Although my MIL does not smoke when DS is at her house, after we get home I have to wash EVERYTHING of DS b/c it reeks of smoke.  And he gets a bath first thing.

I don't have the rule about changing clothes, but I understand why some do & if I smoked I would agree to follow the rule.

Sometimes I think about telling my MIL about how DS smells like a giant cigarette after we leave her house... maybe it would motivate her to quit.

So yes, I understand your frustration!

 

yea we asked the pedi and she said its ok to visit, but NOT to stay long and to put the baby on its own blankets and not to put her anywhere on anything in the house thats always there...im like, if the darn dr said it, then im not just obsessive here pl! its just not good for her at all!!!

J+O

usafwife3:

J+O:

99% of DH's family members smoke so I know how frustrating it is. ?Although my MIL does not smoke when DS is at her house, after we get home I have to wash EVERYTHING of DS b/c it reeks of smoke. ?And he gets a bath first thing.

I don't have the rule about changing clothes, but I understand why some do & if I smoked I would agree to follow the rule.

Sometimes I think about telling my MIL about how DS smells like a giant cigarette after we leave her house... maybe it would motivate her to quit.

So yes, I understand your frustration!

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yea we asked the pedi and she said its ok to visit, but NOT to stay long and to put the baby on its own blankets and not to put her anywhere on anything in the house thats always there...im like, if the darn dr said it, then im not just obsessive here pl! its just not good for her at all!!!

This is why I DONOT want my MIL to babysit. ?Why does she CHOOSE to put me in this type of situation? ?It's not fair!

I should talk to my pedi about this issue and see what he says and then I can use it next time.

usafwife3

J+O:

usafwife3:

J+O:

99% of DH's family members smoke so I know how frustrating it is.  Although my MIL does not smoke when DS is at her house, after we get home I have to wash EVERYTHING of DS b/c it reeks of smoke.  And he gets a bath first thing.

I don't have the rule about changing clothes, but I understand why some do & if I smoked I would agree to follow the rule.

Sometimes I think about telling my MIL about how DS smells like a giant cigarette after we leave her house... maybe it would motivate her to quit.

So yes, I understand your frustration!

 

yea we asked the pedi and she said its ok to visit, but NOT to stay long and to put the baby on its own blankets and not to put her anywhere on anything in the house thats always there...im like, if the darn dr said it, then im not just obsessive here pl! its just not good for her at all!!!

This is why I DONOT want my MIL to babysit.  Why does she CHOOSE to put me in this type of situation?  It's not fair!

I should talk to my pedi about this issue and see what he says and then I can use it next time.

 

heck yea i would cuz it was really hard for dh to understand my view on it cuz he grew up that way ya know? but once the dr said it, he knew i wasnt crazy! he told her himself...it was perfect lol id tell her for sure!

tiffyr0se

We won't even take DS to my mom's house because she lives in a tincan that smells worse than any bowling alley bar you've ever been to.  She is constanly bringing us baby stuff, which is great, except it's been at her house.  Clothes we can wash, no big deal, but some of the toys and stuffed animals can't really be washed.  I feel bad, but if I can't wash it, we can't keep it.   Seriously, the stuff smells SO bad.

KellyNAaron

Sure sounds like he is just in denial about smoking anyway.