am I being b!tchy?

kaitaloon

My best friend told me she is pregnant. I am very happy for her, but this is her second child, and with her first pregnancy she did not tell a single person! Not even the father (they had broken up). she never looked pregnant. She was one of those lucky girls who only gained 15 pounds and delivered an 8.5 lb baby! She lives with her parents and her fiance lives with his parents, neither of them have told their families. I am one of the only people they have told. She doesn't know if she is going to tell her parents. I saw how excited her mom was when I told her that I was pregnant, and she told me she couldn't wait to have another grandchild.

BF keeps asking me for advice and I keep asking her if she has told her parents. She said she is scared, I find it hard to give her advice because she needs to tell her parents!  Am I being b!tchy or should I get over it? I am happy for her, and would do anything for her, I just think her parents and family have the right to know.

Sorry this got long, its just been on my mind

ohwhattheheck

how old is she?  Why would she be scared to tell her parents?

noimnotmarried

eh, i think it's none of your business if she tells her parents or not, to be honest. if she asks for advice, tell her your opinion, but beyond that, just be happy for her.

not quite sure how her living arrangement and the fact that she didn't tell anyone about her last pregnancy have anything to do with this.   why do those things matter?

MySweetBaboo

Is she excited about it?  How far along is she?

Based on your post, you should be happy and share her excitement with her and be honored that she shared the big news with you first before she shared with her family...what an honor!

 Not sure why the other details are relevant?! (her previous pregnancy, etc.)?

kaitaloon

ohwhattheheck:

how old is she?  Why would she be scared to tell her parents?

 

She is 25, I am not sure why she is scared.

Sam78

I think your friend is being ridiculous by not telling her parents.  If she's asking for advice, then why would you be b!tchy for telling her to tell her parents?  Its not like you're repeatedly giving unsolicited advice!

kaitaloon

she is very excited and I am as well. I guess the reason that I stated the other info was because I know how excited her mom was the first time, and she wanted to know if she got pregnant again. I guess I just know that I couldn't wait to tell my parents and I know how big of a help my mom was during my pregnancy

ohwhattheheck

she's 25?  Yes, she should tell her parents...unless they are some sort of religious fanatics, I don't see why she would be scared - especially since this is her second child you would think that would soften the blow.

I'm going to agree with the other posters though, all you can do is give her your opinion since she asked but other than that, stay out of it.

Sunny1inTucson

I don't think you're being bitchy - I think your friend is being very weird. I would instead try to understand why she is scared to tell her parents - is she embarrassed she's pregnant again? Worried fiance's parents will be upset since they aren't married?

Once you know why she's scared, you can help her deal with those concerns.