My ILS live in the same town as us and have not seen DS in 3 weeks

KMLP

I have no idea how a grandparent that lives in the same town as the grandchild could go that long without seeing his adorable face.? I think the problem is my ILs don't know how to be grandparents.? My husband's sister has a daughter that they practically raise and therefore can control.? They know that DS has loving, stable parents and they cannot control what happens with him.? I think that bugs them.? Even so, I think it is just sad that they do not care to see hiim (or at least that is what it seems like).

HollyLuv

My MIL lives less than 5 minutes away and went nearly 3 weeks without seeing her as well. My SIL has gone a month without seeing her, and didn't even come see us at the hospital (we were there for 4 days) even though she lives minutes  away.

suzyqsmith

If I was blessed enough to go three weeks without seeing my IL's I would be on my knees thanking God for giving me a break. I am jealous of you.

That being said... I feel your pain on the control thing and it is sad that they can't just relax and enjoy getting to know their grandchild without having to be the major decision maker.

KGoober

I wish I knew what you were going through, my MIL is psycho about seeing DS. Also, she watches him for a few hrs. each day.  I think thats pretty bad that your IL's live so close but dont make an effort...

jculp

I have the same issue!!! My IL's came over last night for first time since Christmas and she ended up flipping out on me... but still it seems odd that they don't want to see DC!! How do you not take it personal? 

KMLP

jculp:

I have the same issue!!! My IL's came over last night for first time since Christmas and she ended up flipping out on me... but still it seems odd that they don't want to see DC!! How do you not take it personal??

I am not close with them, and neither is DH really.? However, it still makes me sad for DS that they do not make an effort to see him.? At least he has my parents who would do anything in the world for him!

cuwife

My FIL hasn't seen DD since she was 3 days old, she just turned 4 months. He lives 5 mins. away. His loss.

MySweetBaboo

I am in the same boat.  I'm glad I don't have to see them often, but still, when the only time they see gd is when we initiate it, it is really sad.  Then dh makes me be quiet about how often my mom sees her.  It is his mothers choice, imo!

I do think in my situation it is possibly a control thing as well.  Either that or they like the toddler phase better...remains to be seen!