Do you ever feel like your friends are ignoring u since baby arrived?

septbaby2008

I totally feel like my friends don't care to email me or even invite me to do things.  When they do I feel like a third wheel....sometimes they don't even ask about my DS.  It makes me sad.

lpennie16

yes! It's like they think i'm boring and go to bed at 7pm now that I'm a mom! They don't ask about DS b/c they don't have kids and probably don't care.

JARbaby

I have kids and when my friends have new babies (under a year) I tend to leave them alone and let them come to me. I know they are busy and don't want to bother them.

So reach out and don't expect them to come to you, maybe they are respecting the new stage of your life.

MrsGMRMartin

Yep, I feel the same way.  I have brought it up to a few of my friends and it got better for a little while.

cajuncutie0169

Yes! It sucks. They began ignoring me once I got engaged and married, but it's worse now that I have a baby. Everyone else is single and ready to mingle so I guess I'm the boring old married lady with a kid. It makes me sad bc I'm still the same fun chick I was before, I just have more responsibilities now.

mrse1107

Are you the only one with a baby? If so, thats probably what it is.

I keep in touch w/my friends but I dont' get invited as much. None of my friends have kids, and they always assume I can't go out (which in most cases is correct).

Its hard to be the only one witha child when your friends don't but thats the choice you made and the baby is #1 now...

Alli3586

Yes! None of my friends have kids though so they are still in the "party" phase. That's why I joined a mom's group and I have gotten a lot closer to my DH's cousin because she has an 11 month old.

tmp-759026187508088

Yes, one on particular and it started once I got pregnant.  I just tend to try and talk to other people that have babies so that I can occupy myself some way.  We all still need our friends, ya know?

TRAlbaugh

I feel the same way sometimes. Then I think about it and even if they would invite us to do a lot of things I probably wouldn't go that often. My time with DS is precious and although it does make me sad sometimes I accept the  fact that we just don't have as much in common anymore. Sure we still talk and keep in touch, we just don't see everyone as much.

megs042107

most of my friends have babies, so we chat and meet up when we can. ?a few close friends who don't have babies don't really "get it" but i can't really expect them to either. ?i've made multiple attempts to either see them or have them meet C, but if they're non responsive, that's on them. ?at least i can say i've tried, you know?

sunnygyrl

I feel the same way. One of my BM's has dropped off the face of the earth and when she does reconnect, she constantly forgets DD's name. It is really hard.

mrse1107

after re-reading this post I want to edit my comment -- yes, friends w/out kids don't "get" the change in lifestyle we have now so they seem to back off a bit b/c the don't know when we're busy or not busy.

I didn't mean you should't worry about having friends, b/c of course we all still need and deserve friends. Talk to them, explan your feelings, but I meant not to be so upset about not going out all the time b/c chances are you wouldn't be able to anyway w/the LO. But they should at least check up on him/you and ask how he's doing.

 

SusanluvCharles

cajuncutie0169:

Yes! It sucks. They began ignoring me once I got engaged and married, but it's worse now that I have a baby. Everyone else is single and ready to mingle so I guess I'm the boring old married lady with a kid. It makes me sad bc I'm still the same fun chick I was before, I just have more responsibilities now.

I feel the same way!  I'm still the same fun person.  O-well.

DEW1027

yeah, my friends don't even call me anymore... we can go a whole week and my mother will be the only one to call our house.. it's depressing really.

robertsgrl

JARbaby:

I have kids and when my friends have new babies (under a year) I tend to leave them alone and let them come to me. I know they are busy and don't want to bother them.

So reach out and don't expect them to come to you, maybe they are respecting the new stage of your life.

Ditto.