Babies arrived and feeling overwhelmed!

sara12274

My babies arrived last monday.  I have been feeling so overwhelmed and had no idea at how hard it really is!  My husband has been so helpful - I don't want him to go back to work tomorrow.  My mom will be here tomorrow to help me for the next couple weeks.  I just don't know how I am going to survive the next couple of months!  Does it get easier?

 

JustaKidAtHeart

I know I am still new at this but it comes in waves of difficulty.  Just when you think you have it figured out something changes the game.  GL you will survive. 

Zeidy01

Congrats!!!! I know is difficult at 1st but like everyone else say, it gets better.?

ALWAYS sleep when they sleep. Forget about cleaning the house.

TC,

Zeidy?

twolittlemoose

Right now you are in survival mode.  Do whatever works and try not to worry about what "they" say.  It does get easier. 

mrscalkins

Like the pp said, there's always going to be rough spots at different stages etc, but it WILL get easier.  The first three months are survival mode.  Accept help, no matter what form it comes in, say to hell with the cleaning and sleep whenever possible.   Vent here when you need to and hang in there!  Congrats on healthy babies!

MelZull

First of all, congrats on the little ones. I am still new to the whole juggling twins thing, but with my experiences over the past month and a half things do slowly get better. Over time you will find little tricks that work for you and your babies. Your little ones will switch things up on you often with their sleeping and eating patterns, but try to stay relaxed and when you need it dont be afraid to ask for help. The past few nights my girls have been very fussy and nothing has been working for them, so I called up a friend and she was more then willing to come lend a hand.?

Your mom will be a big help the next few weeks while she is there. Let her help you in any way possible. When my mom stayed with us she cooked, did some cleaning while I had a doctors appt, got up with the girls in the early morning so dh and I could get some sleep.?

Good luck and dont be afraid to break down and cry if you need it, things do get better, then worse and then better again.?

JChandlerJBates

Congrats on you little ones.  I was in your shoes just about a month ago.  Things do get easier and you will get a flow.  Like you I was lucky enough to have my Mom here for the 1st three weeks to help me start to get that flow.  I was terrified the 1st day I was alone with the boys, but you know what everything went great and every day just gets better.  I just hate to go back to work myself in a few weeks.

maria15288

Congratulations on the babies!!!

Leah5185

I posted this same thing when my twins were born and people on here were so encouraging. YOU CAN DO THIS. It may not feel like it, but you can and will. With your mom there you should try to sneak in a few naps here and there. It got better for us around week 8 or 9 when they started sleeping longer stretches at night. That made all the difference in the world for me. I promise it gets easier. At about 3 months we had a great routine and they were sleeping well and everything just got easier. Take some time alone to re group when you need to( showers, nest, naps!) and don't forget to eat!

Brongemonger

It WILL get easier, I promise! The first few months, I can't lie, are definitely hard and it takes a lot of determination, but you will get through and the clouds will part! My boys are 9 months now and although it's busy, it is so much easier. Once you feel more of a routine and the kids sleep better, likfe will be so much better.