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Hurt feelings...

JennyTomJennyTom
in TTC after 35
So, this year has sucked.  We lost our baby in April which was devistating.  We've been trying since June to get pregnant again, with no luck.  We will be doing IUI for the first time this month.  Yesterday my 25 year old cousin sent an e mail saying she was pregnant.  My aunt (not her mother) sent an e mail back to everyone saying that it was "about time there was a new baby in the family".  This is an aunt I'm very close to and who knows the pain I've been through in the last year and how much we want another baby.  I'm just feeling so hurt.
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  • joyfulnaturejoyfulnature

    Dear Jenny,

    ((hugs))

    I'm so, so sorry - for your loss, and for your aunt's insensitivity.

    Your aunt loves you, and so I truly believe that she did not mean to hurt you. She just meant to express her joy in welcoming this new baby. Unfortunately, she did not think about how her words would make you feel.

    I don't mean to excuse her, btw.

    I can tell by your words how sad you are right now. But I hope that the IUI works, and that there will be another baby entering your family soon.

     

     

     

     

     

     

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  • cklju098uilocklju098uilo

    I'm so sorry. Sometimes people just don't realize how insensitive they're being. It doesn't justify it. But she probably just hit 'reply all' and never thought about how it would feel for you to read that. Emails are dangerous like that.?

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  • QE2QE2 member
    Sorry you're going through this. I'm sure she didn't mean to be hurtful and didn't realize the impact that it would have on you. I have had a many friends and family members make comments that felt like daggers in my heart. People that have never dealt with IF or a m/c just don't get it. Sending hugs your way.
    TTC since 3/08 DOR, High FSH, Hypothyroid, Uterine Polyps, blocked tube, MFI, 5 rounds of clomid, 5 IVF attempts, 2 hysteroscopies, 2 natural conceptions=2 losses (Methotrexate, D&C) Successful DE cycle twins born 10/7/11 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • indianasunshineindianasunshine member

    (((HUGS)))

    My mother has said some horrible things to me, and when I call her out on them she doesn't understand why I am so offended. ?This entire process is so emotional and will never be understood by anyone who has had an easy go of it.?

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  • fiazofiazo

    I really think the older generation, meaning our mothers ages & up say these things without thinking because during their time they all got pregnant so early that they didn't encounter the problems we are today. We are getting married later, having careers & don't even start thinking of a starting a family til later in life.

     She probably didn't mean it in a negative way toward you, or to hurt you, that's just how they talk. Really, my family has a couple of those too.

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