NBR: Sex toy party invitation wording

ashleynb7

I am hosting a "surprise" party for my friend who is about to get married.  For those not familiar with "surprise" parties, it's a party where a group of girls get together and a "surprise" party rep comes and shows us lingerie and, for a lack of better words, sex toys.  The bride-to-be has a sheet that has all the items listed and she checks the ones that she likes and the guests by her her favorite picks!  All guests also have the opportunity to by themselves something!  It's a blast....drinking and buying bedroom toys!! 

So, I am trying to think of the wording for the invites. I want to write something clever but also want something to let the guests know that the party may not be for the shy-at-heart!!  Any ideas??

EliseB0323

I think the real "surprise" is that guests are expected to purchase things at a party. (This is really tacky, BTW) You should let people know that there are costs associated with this party. Also your friend may very well be mortified by the whole thing.

AnnapolisLari

Ditto Elise.

If I knew that I had to buy the bride sex toys, I would not attend at all. And I would be dead sure that the bride is interested in that kind of thing. I would find a party like that for my wedding absolutely revolting.

eshaffer

Can I come?  

BubblyToes

Ew, yeah, I'm with the other ladies.  I wouldn't be pleased about attending a party and then being expected to buy the bride a sex toy. 

ashleynb7

Gee, thanks so much for your opinion EliseB!!  Of course my friend knows all about the party, since it is for her and she made out the guest list, so I seriously doubt she will be mortified.  Also, everyone will know that there is no need for them to bring a gift and that the gifts will be purchased at the party.  What may be tacky to you is a lot of fun to others that aren't so uptight. 

EliseB0323

Oh, and what kind of "incentive" are you getting for hosting the party? You should include that info in the invite too.

ashleynb7

Loosen up ladies....its a fun time!

EliseB0323

ashleynb7:

Gee, thanks so much for your opinion EliseB!!  Of course my friend knows all about the party, since it is for her and she made out the guest list, so I seriously doubt she will be mortified.  Also, everyone will know that there is no need for them to bring a gift and that the gifts will be purchased at the party.  What may be tacky to you is a lot of fun to others that aren't so uptight. 

You are your friends sound like a klassy bunch!  Have fun!

eshaffer

Yep, again.    Can I come?   

ashleynb7

My incentive is 10% of all sales plus $25 extra dollars which I have already told the guest-of-honor that I will be giving to her. 

Sorry to get everyone so worked up.  What may be fun for some may not be for others.  I simply asked for help on invitation wording.

ashleynb7

Of course you can come eshafer!!!

eshaffer

I must be KLASSY too, b/c my friends did this for me, too. Kind of, it was more like everyone bought their own thing, but we had drinks, food, and we laughed so hard it was so much fun.

Oh well. 

emilykristene2006

I'd go. It's a bridal shower. I guess I'm part of the "tacky" crowd. I got all kinds of toys and lingerie for my shower anyway.

ashleynb7

My friends had me one of these parties as well and it was a hoot!  We laughed so hard!!

jpowell3

My friends are thinking of doing this & I don't mind at all. Of course it isn't something that you invite co-workers too, but if you don't have friends that are close enough to you where you can enjoy a party like this, then you are the uptight one. I suggest you look for advice elsewhere. Sorry I can't help you out with the wording, I'm not creative like that.

elm1032004

As long as everyone knows up front what the expectation is then I think it's ok.....if they don't want to buy the Bride that type of gift then they can choose to not go.  I would just make it really clear.  As far as invitation wording I would do something like

 Let's help BRIDE's marriage get off to an exciting start

Come to my sex toy party on X date
Bride will check off her favorite items as they are displayed
Guests can then purchase these items for the bride to be

It's not my cup of tea, but hey if you guys like it then it's your call.

Baby4OT

I went to a sex toy bachelorette party. It was tons of fun! The bride did not, however, choose the toys she wanted. That's the part that I think is tacky. A few people did buy her something, but it wasn't expected. I've never heard it called a "surprise" party either -- if I got an invite to a surprise party, I'd assume that it was a party that the bride didn't know about, not a sex toy party that she helped plan! I'd skip the part of the bride choosing her own sex toys (unless she's buying them of course) and just send inviations that say something like:

Bride is getting married!

Time to celebrate with a girls night to get her prepared for married life...

Sex Toys!

Please join us for a girls night of fun and laughter... Plenty of food and wine will be served

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