DH is Mr. Sensitive

RRHsMom

Yesterday DH was telling 2 of his female coworkers about how we aren't having a big 1st bday party for Ryan since we really both remember most of it as the worst day of our lives (as strange as that seems but you guys understand) and how we are instead celebrating his coming home day this year.  I guess he got all teary talking about it and was embarrassed when they told him he was a "sensitive man."  I think I forget how hard the birth was for him.  He had 2 of us to worry about with the pre-e and then Ryan's struggle.  I think guys hide it and don't talk abouit as much so it surpises us when they break down a little.

Jessarella

That is so sweet. Guys usually keep the emotions buried,  they are effected by traumatic experiences just as we are, they just express it a different way.

 

ijack

I've really had to work to remember that it's a bad day for DH too. He missed E's birth and is devastated, he will NEVER forgive himself. And part of my issue with it is that I was all alone. I don't make him feel guilty about it and I try to never mention it, but he knows that one of the reasons it sucked so bad for both of us is because he wasn't there. It's hard

RRHsMom

Wow that would be really hard.  I can't imagine going through everything I went through all alone and I know DH would have been crushed to have missed it. I guess we can all just hope for a much different experience next time.