Is it rude to ask that shower guests not bring disposable diapers?

war_eagle

Is it ok for me to ask the host to put something on the invitation about us planning to use cloth or g-diapers? ?I really don't want to end up with a bunch of disposables, but I don't want to be tacky.

Mama Jan

Yes, it is rude.  You can return them if you don't want to use them.  Also, registering for cloth might help get the point across.

beth thacker

I don't think it's any different for someone to put "diposable diapers only" in their invites. If thats what you've decided to use I think it is perfectly ok to put that in your invite. For the most part, guests would rather get you something that they know your going to use than get you something your just going to return.. theres a few that could give a rats a*s but for the most part they care.

trinise

Its not rude. You register for things you want, this is just another request.

jenerally

I think it's rude.

You can return the diapers or you can donate them to a shelter.

Mrs.Kent

I don't think it's rude.  People should understand, especially if you tell them you're using cloth diapers.

TexasLadyBug

Yes it is tacky to word that in your invite. Instead either registry for cloth and people will get the idea, return or donate diapers you are given, and/or have you Host spread the word by mouth that you will be using cloth.

If you have a blog you could add a link to the side with a link to g-diapers or write something short saying how you will be using cloth, but again dont ask people to buy cloth.

NDwife07

Not rude at all. Just ask the shower host to spread the word.

Or, do what we did and add a note to your registry (BRU lets you do this) that says "We are planning to cloth diaper. If you had hoped to purchase diapers for baby, please let us know."

NDwife07

If I purchased sposies for someone and later found out they CD, I'd be a little put off and wonder why they didn't say something. I'd feel like my money was wasted.

sweetpea18

I wouldn't put anything on the registry.  I plan on using cloth and registered for them at both Target and BRU.  Hopefully, people get the idea.  I've also had my mom and aunt try to spread the word that we plan on using cloth.  I figure if I get disposables, I'll just send them with her to be used at daycare or return them.  If all else fails, I'll just donate them to a local shelter. 

andreametz

yes. very rude.

choltbaby

I don't think it is rude because all of your guests are going to want to get you something you will use. I would much rather give someone something they want instead of something they will return or give away.

war_eagle

Wow--split decision. ?I think I'll err on the side of caution and keep my mouth shut and just hope they get the hint if they look at the registry. ?I appreciate the input!

thenewmrsrussell

Are YOU sending out the invites? Or someone is doing it for you? If you write it yourself, that's a little odd, but I don't think it would be weird for your shower host to put something in the invite about how you are using cloth diapers.

CalinsBride

thenewmrsrussell:

Are YOU sending out the invites? Or someone is doing it for you? If you write it yourself, that's a little odd, but I don't think it would be weird for your shower host to put something in the invite about how you are using cloth diapers.

Good point. It's kind of like the hostess just spreading the word, people wouldn't find that rude. Unless they assumed that you told her to say it. . .

war_eagle

CalinsBride:

thenewmrsrussell:

Are YOU sending out the invites? Or someone is doing it for you? If you write it yourself, that's a little odd, but I don't think it would be weird for your shower host to put something in the invite about how you are using cloth diapers.

Good point. It's kind of like the hostess just spreading the word, people wouldn't find that rude. Unless they assumed that you told her to say it. . .

No, not writing the invites. ?I was thinking of asking her to include this, but have been convinced not too. ????It's not even for several weeks, but she sent me an email today asking me for preferences and ideas, so it was on my mind.

Temp159135562506975

it's rude to dictate any part of a gift that people should/should not bring.

if you get them- return them or donate them.

 

jason&robin

I wouldn't come right out and say it, but I bet you can get the word around through a few choice friends and family. You can also register for g-diapers. Hopefully they will get the hint. Unfortunately, there will be some people that don't look at your registry and think diapers are a great idea. Even if you cd, it's always nice to have a few on hand just in case.

lsufan

I don't really think it's rude, but do you think you'll receive that many disposable diapers at a shower? ?Nobody ever gave me diapers as a gift, and I sort of thought that was only done at a "diaper" shower. ?Either way, even though we use cloth diapers, I still needed a few disposables. ?It took me a week or so when my first was born to get my act together and start figuring out how to use the cloth diapers. ?It's also just nice to have a few disposables on hand just in case you feel you need them.

I also agree that maybe it's a good idea to register for diapers and put that information on the shower invitations. ?A friend of mine registered at www.cottonbabies.com.?

llyynn

I wouldn't put anything in the invitation other than a list of store where you are registered.  Put lots of cloth diapers/supplies on your registry to give them the hint.  If you get disposables then return them, thats all.

FinallyThatGirl

I dont think its rude. Is this your 2nd child? I think with a first most people dont buy diaper's.... however its very common for a 2nd child...but then again how would I know. I registered for cloth everywhere and make it very known to everyone that I am using cloth. I didnt put a note on our registry but i did put a note that we would prefer people NOT to buy baby blue items. DH and I are not fans of baby blue etc.

 People will buy what they want no matter what you say... just keep that in mind.

jolis_petits_bijoux

Okay, here's the deal.

It is rude to ask people not to bring disposable diapers.  It is not rude to "spread the word" about your plans to cloth diaper.  I think it would be okay for the shower hostess to note on the invite "Susie is registered at Babies R Us and is planning to use cloth diapers."

mrs.meteowrite

We're going to go with cloth diapers too, but I figure there'll be times and places where having a few disposables will be handy.  I'm thinking if anyone brings them to the shower, we'll find a use for them, even if we're going the cloth route. 

 As an alternative, you could always donate any you get to a shelter or daycare center or somewhere else that would be happy to have them.  

iris427

Instead of putting it on the invitation, I just had the shower host spread the word that we were going to CD.  It worked because I only got one package of diapers.  We ended up using them until the meconium was gone anyway.

mommabarker09

NDwife07:

If I purchased sposies for someone and later found out they CD, I'd be a little put off and wonder why they didn't say something. I'd feel like my money was wasted.

Ditto

krstokes

If you register for them I think most people would see that but not everyone looks at your registry even though they really should... maybe wording it somehow isnt a bad idea... If you do put it on the invite I would put it smaller somewhere but still visible!!!

IU_baby

Yes, I do think it's rude.  In my experience, people don't buy you diapers unless you register for them or you may get just a few packages.  It might be nice to have some disposables on hand just in case.