Speaking of showers....

rockchalkbride

I have yet to have anyone offer to throw me one.  My SIL is only 18, I don't want to burden her with it...it is rude for my mother to ask family members if they would help out?  I am wanting to register but not sure for what since I have no shower yet

What would you do in this situation?

madonnadouwanna

I don't think that it is rude for your mom to ask for help.  Hosting a shower can be a huge undertaking for some. 

And it doesn't hurt to register even if you do not think you are getting a shower.  Some places send you completion coupons or added discounts that could come in handy when buying stuff yourself.  Good luck!

cminNJ

I know my MIL and Mom are planning to throw me a shower.  Even if they were not I still would register at Babies R Us.   When you get closer to your due date they send you a 10% off coupon.

I'm using BRU as my list of things I need to buy.

I say register anyway, ... if anything at least for yourself

nanantato

IMO asking people to throw you a shower is rude. Go and register, and if they bring it to your attention, you can say you registered. Unless you throw one for yourself.?

holymolymatrimony

Most people 'figure' plans are already taken care of, but in your case I would just talk about it with your mother or MIL to get the ball rolling?  Or maybe they have a surprise one planned for you???

 

thenewmrsrussell

Maybe you should wait a little longer to see if anyone offers. It's still pretty early for you.

Otherwise, if I were you I would casually work it into conversation with your mom like... "oh that would be a really great shower idea/gift" etc... and then be like "yeah...I don't know if I'm going to have a shower though." and see what she says. If she doesnt ask why not, tell her you're worried no one will throw you one. Maybe then she'll offer and in a round about way, you never really had to ask.

TennisWife815

I had DH mention it to mother and MIL. Either way, you should register because people will still buy you stuff when the baby is born and afterwards. Of course, if you're not having a shower, you'll need the necessities for the beginning, but I know lots of people who don't have showers and people let the parents know what they'll be buying.

So my BFF (no shower) one aunt and uncle bought her pack n play and another got her travel system. I picked up some of her bottles (she's not bfing), the drop ins, and her formula mixer. And so it continues ...

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Hope that helps, rock! Hope things are good too.?

holymolymatrimony

ohhh and I aggree, definitely still register!  It will all pan out, maybe it will even open discussion for plans, since ppl may ask! 

berry25

I don't think it's appropriate to ask people about throwing a shower for yourself.  Go ahead and register though - you don't have to have a shower to have a baby registry. 

The New Mrs.

Definitely register! We were surprised to receive a couple gifts off our registry after our wedding from people that weren't even invited to the wedding. Thought it was really sweet and people are like that - sometimes they just want to get you a gift!

I don't think it's rude to talk to your family about a shower and definitely fine for your mom to ask for help if she is wanting to throw one but can't all by herself! Myabe she buys decorations and provides the place for it while a few close friends/relatives bring a dish. Maybe your SIL can help your mom by running errands, sending out invites or helping set up and serve food or taking charge of playing games. Talk to your mom about it! I'm sure they'll do one for you!

jolis_petits_bijoux

Someone will mention it soon, both my family and DH's just mentioned it to me within the past week or so.

I don't think your mother should ask family members to help out... unless it is someone really close, like your aunt/her sister, etc.  I do think it is appropriate for the grandmas-to-be to throw a baby shower.  I know that can be looked down on as it relates to bridal showers... but for a baby shower, the guest-of-honor's mother or MIL often throws the shower.  In fact, the vast majority of baby showers I've been to were hosted by the guest-of-honor's mother or MIL.

As others said, definitely register, no matter what.  Even if you do not have a shower and no one buys you a gift (which won't happen anyway!), you can use it to help yourself track what you need, AND, most registries come with a registry completion discount that you can use to buy the items you didn't get.

hiswife062808

My mom, my SIL and my best friend are going in together. I made it clear that I don't want one person getting "stuck" with everything and if that was going to happen, I didn't want a shower. Well anyways, now we are writting out lists for food, drinks, decorations etc. That way- things are divided up evenly (sp?), and anything that is left, I am just going to ask my grandma's to do (make). I know that it might sound tacky, but it is important to me that these "rules" are followed, because I know, with this economic situation, people don't have much money to spend. I figure I can help out too if need be. This shower is going to benefit me more then anybody, so if I have to buy the decorations or some food, I don't mind.

I would just talk to these people and see where everybody stands on the situation. What's wrong with having your mom do it? And you can help out? The invitations don't need to say "given by" and it doesn't need to be discussed at the shower either. As long as the shower turns out nice, who cares who is in charge!