Repost from 2nd Tri...: Nbr: What do you consider cheating...

surprisebaby4us2009

So we are having a discussion in my office because it is Friday and nobody works on Fridays right...  So.........  One of the girls in our admin found that her boyfriend is adding women to his myspace that he doesnt know and emailing them...  She asked him about it and he lied and said it was a friend from high school.  I guess she read the email and he said he didnt know her but they were from the same area blah, blah...  And he lied to her and said he didnt email her etc.

So... this conversation got me thinking it may be a good conversation piece... I am sure everyone has different opinions!

1.  Do you consider this an act of cheating because he was lying and trying to keep it a secret?

2.  What would you do if it was you?

3.  What do you consider to be cheating?

t.bird

1. i don't think it's cheating per say- it's more him living in a dreamland

2. i'd smack him & tell him to grow up. who e-mails people on myspace anymore?

3. sexual physical contact with another woman. emotional cheating is him getting emotionally involved with someone else- but i'd be a bit more forgiving about that one.

Pennylane824

Yes I consider it cheating, I don't know what I would do, however. It would be a very tough conversation.

eschlick

I think so. Obviously not as serious as other levels of cheating but who knows where it might lead.  It is definitely suspicious.  Not sure what I would do, probably tell him how I feel about it and if he cares enough then he will stop.

BeeLove

1.  Do you consider this an act of cheating because he was lying and trying to keep it a secret?  No. I just consider it a lie and break of trust.  But, not cheating.

2.  What would you do if it was you?  I would not be sneaking in reading my BF's emails for one thing but for two, if I found out he was lying I would leave.  He cannot be trusted and she had reasons to snoop so I think it's an unhealthy relationship on both sides.

3.  What do you consider to be cheating?Physical or emotional contact and a relationship....One email is undefinded and I don't consider the email an act of cheating.  I consider his lie the betrayal ...until he ACTS on it, it is still just a lie and it is still just an email.

AshNicole331

1.  Do you consider this an act of cheating because he was lying and trying to keep it a secret? I don't think it's cheating but I do think what he's doing is wrong. I don't tolerate liars.

2.  What would you do if it was you? I'd call his asss out and nip it in the bud. If she doesn't do anything about it now it could turn into a lot worse...IMO

3.  What do you consider to be cheating? I don't care about porn...but I think stripclubs are totally unacceptable. Obviously any kid of "sexual relation" I would consider cheating as well

kle+spd

My ex did this exact same thing! But then he went on to call the girls and go out with them! They truely were old high school friends too! But obviously he wasn't just trying to "catch up" I ended up contacting a few of the girls and getting the full story! They knew nothing about me and told me he had said he was single. He had gone on dates with them and all! So based on my experience I consider all that cheating!

Lying about that is never a good thing because it means he knows he did something wrong...not healthy in my opinion!

Jenniepenny11

not cheating, but it sure seems like he was about to

MrsJY

1.  Do you consider this an act of cheating because he was lying and trying to keep it a secret?  No, I don't consider it cheating.  I would definately lose trust and I don't think you can have a healthy relationship without it.  Also, if it's not dealt with, it could definately turn into cheating.

2.  What would you do if it was you?  I would confront him and tell him how it made me feel. However, he could easily flip it b/c she was snooping through his emails. The entire situation sounds unhealthy... if you can't trust your partner why stay with them?

3.  What do you consider to be cheating? Physical contact or an emotional relationship.